{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Y’all. Am I being too uptight? My best friend is going through a breakup from her long term bf. Ive been trying my best to be there for her though we’re in different states (call her 2-3 a week and text daily). She told me she was considering seeing a guy she had been talking to from an app and I suggested against it. I said if you rly need to see him just go on a walk. She has a high libido, she ended up sleeping with him. The reason I said don’t sleep with him right away is bc (cont)", "post_id": "5ebe05e3b9db2d0024ac9671", "reply_count": 12, "vote_count": 1, "bowl_id": "59e88be7e2808e00149b0443", "bowl_name": "Women In Consulting", "feed_type": "bowl" }

Y’all. Am I being too uptight? My best friend is going through a breakup from her long term bf. Ive been trying my best to be there for her though we’re in different states (call her 2-3 a week and text daily). She told me she was considering seeing a guy she had been talking to from an app and I suggested against it. I said if you rly need to see him just go on a walk. She has a high libido, she ended up sleeping with him. The reason I said don’t sleep with him right away is bc (cont)

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Your friend asked for your opinion, you gave it. However, she is free to do what she wants. As a friend, just be there to support her, you won’t always agree on what to do in each situation.

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Definitely not being too uptight. This is a scary and you care about your friend who appears to not be taking it seriously enough.

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At the end of the day, he’s a random dude who told her he had been quarantining, but what if he lied? I just get concerned when there’s a contagious thing going around and she’s meeting up with random people. I told her this, in a very practical way and she agreed. It just reminds me of how she used to lie to me when she’d not make the best decisions, and it really bothers me that she’s being so irresponsible. At the end of the day, it’s not my life. But I do worry about her sometimes. Anyways. Needed to vent.

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Your friend is me. I am reckless.

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I was too in my younger years 🤪

I think people will slowly go back to their normal lives based on their own risk analyses. We are trying to flatten the curve not stop it. You’ve expressed your concerns in a mature way and she chose to make her own decision. It sounds like she’s young and hopefully doesn’t have any underlying conditions so I doubt worse case scenario if he lied and she caught the virus she would be clogging up the health system. I think you’re right to feel concerned but ultimately everyone will slowly go back to normal and unless they are endangering strangers (going out without face masks, standing closer than 6 ft) it’s up to individuals to make their own decisions if legally allowed

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Some people don’t want to wait that long - including women 🤷🏻‍♀️. You offered your suggestion and unfortunately her thirst won this round!

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I have always been too rational in my opinion & most of my close friends are reckless & the complete opposite of me. I have learned to accept them for who they are and to refrain from judging. I offer my opinion when asked, but I usually just let them be.

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Yeah. Idk, she regularly sees her parents (she drives to them), so it’s not like she’s self-isolating either. But I just need to learn how to let things go.

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OP it’s tough when those we love make reckless decisions. But we can’t judge and have to just let go. It’s not your life it’s hers. I struggle w this a lot as well w a friend who often makes very dumb decisions about men and sex (she slept w a man she knew was HIV positive once - what an idiot). But in all the years me being mad at her for being dumb has not helped in any way. I just be supportive and kind and offer advice when she asks and drop it when she doesn’t take it. This is friendship. It’s ok to be honest but it’s also important to drop your opinion/judgement when they make their own choices. Maybe not the healthiest but when I get really frustrated w her I do find it can help to vent to others about it so I don’t take it into the relationship. I usually do this w others who don’t know her so it’s not like I’m gossiping behind her back to those she knows. So I think you venti g here and other places is good if it means you get it off your chest and means you can be less exasperated when talking w her. You have to remember too that emotions are really high in the grieving period after a relationship. Most of us don’t think rationally in that period or have strong willpower against our emotional urges. She is lookingfor valudation and connection while she is hurting and its hard to follow the rational thoughts in those times even though you know what you should do often. This is why she agreed with you about not sleeping w him yet but did it anyway. I’m sure she knows it was dumb but couldn’t fully control it in the moment. She probably feels quite dumb about it now so you driving that in will not help but likely just make her feel worse. She knows she wasn’t rational in the moment but reacted poorly based on feelings of grief, loneliness and need. You don’t need to remind her she made a bad call, she probably already knows

Thank you. This is helpful 😊

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