Y’all I think I may have been catfished. I went out with a BM a few times and during our first date I noticed he was much darker and his face was rounder than in his dating profile. There was nothing wrong with how he looked and he seemed nice so I ignored it. I forgot about it until I saw a pic that captures how he looks in person and compared the 2 versions. I’m now concerned it’s not the same person. I’m SHOOK and afraid something weird is going on. Has anyone experienced anything like this??

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Girl abort!!! Do not ask questions


Yes. As soon as he walked up and I noticed immediately that he used someone's photo; showed him the back of my heels...


Probably just went crazy with filters.


That’s insane. I would just be direct and call him out - “hey gotta be honest, your profile picture looks nothing like you, what gives?” and see what he says


Do you have any pictures of him after y’all have started dating? If so, I’d suggest putting them in Google photos...that thing will figure out if it’s the same person or not, filters and all. 😂 But forreal, this is Creeper McCreeperson status. I’d have to just flat out ask him...I don’t know how diplomatic I could be, but I’d definitely ask. You gotta come back to let us know how this turns out.


What did he say when you asked him about it?

He couldn't say nothing...just looked stupid. I'm getting mad all over again. Because he wasted my time and gas. He came with someone else and the dude was trying to encourage him to come introduce himself. I was like who is this??!!😡

You need to call him out. It could be filters, it could be a different person. But I'd want to find out.

He has a family abort. My married friend does the same thing Abort!!

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