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Yesterday, I found out that my mom has stage 1 endometrial cancer. Amidst a postponed wedding, upcoming move for fiancé’s medical residency, and stressful job, what are some ways I can cope?

My mom is my entire world (don’t have much of a relationship with my dad) and I am crushed. She is so emotionally and mentally strong I can’t bear the thought of her going through chemo. She’ll get more information around the severity/course of action once she visits the oncologist next week, but it’s

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I’m so sorry to hear :( I would speak with you HC reps to see if there is any sort of sick leave (or family leave of some sort) you can take to be there for your family.

There are also many support groups for people in your same situation that I imagine could help you find a community and direct you to the appropriate resources to get through this

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I’m so sorry hear this, I’m sending you vibes of strength! Stage 1 is early, here’s sending all hope that treatment will get rid of it, odds are in your favor. It’s still very difficult, I know.

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Thank you, that is good to hear. Afraid to get my hopes up but I know it’s important to not be all doom and gloom, either

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Sorry to hear Op — I went through this with my mom and stage 3 breast cancer . Just be there for her and stay positive as there are many advances that have been made today . Best of luck

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Is your mom ok?

All still processing for me

So sorry to hear. Sending you some positive vibes.

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