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You know I resent being in STEM because guys always assume I’m a feminist who doesn’t shave. I’m a feminist, but when I’m tired it’d be nice to not have the fate of womanhood depend on my leg hair. 😳

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Don’t you love unsolicited advice OP? I’m - ahem - older, so probably more immune to comments like that organically (past prime baby-making and first marriage timetables). I can only offer that you should continue to be true to yourself and eventually they will shut up or you’ll move to a different employer with people who accept you as you are. Right now it seems like people aren’t comfortable because you don’t conform to their preconceptions. That’s their problem (easy to say, I know). Maybe a change in market might help? Someplace with more diversity? Because makeup, which might (arguably) give you an advantage in rising through the ranks to a certain point, has nothing to do with effective IT delivery. Unless you dump a bunch of it onto a motherboard. And then I’m pretty sure the consequences are negative

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Trust me - you are not the center of the universe - nothing important is dependent on whether you have leg hair or not.

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Sure I am. In a group that only has 1000 women, each of us reflects on all of us. That’s what I’m saying.

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That’s very odd- never had that particular reaction. Are you talking about clients or guys you meet socially?

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Both, I get endless suggestions for how to change how I look, lose weight, get married, wear makeup, etc..all the things people at work think I should be doing but really have no business commenting on.

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TA1 finally, thank you. I’m past my “prime” and just trying to make a life for myself too. Refreshing to hear from someone focused on substance.

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