Have you ever had a co-worker you're sincerely interested in and the only reason you're not pursuing it is because you met them in a work setting? I'm in a sticky situation - I've developed feelings for someone I work with and my gut instinct tells me he feels the same way about me. What really are the cons of going forward with this and being inconspicuous about it? Share your experiences, maybe it'll help me either go in confidently or decide to stay in my lane.

Just go for it. Who cares if you met at work. Plenty of married couples exist in the workplace and they met in a work setting. It’s not that big of a deal. I don’t get why there’s such negativity around this. If you have a genuine connection with someone then go for it. Don’t let good people and good opportunities to connect pass you by just because you “met at work.” Do you.

The con - if it ends. You need to consider whether you would be able tocontinue to work together if the relationship ends. Or if you have a disagreement in your personal life, can you interact professionally in front of coworkers.

My husband and I met at work 20 years ago. We started dating 19 years ago and have been married for almost 15 years and 2 beautiful babies later we’re still going strong. He’s the one for me and work can’t change that. They weren’t happy about it but nothing they could do about it either. And we still work together, we are in different departments though and have minimal interactions with each other.

I dated someone at work and even though we disclosed this to HR (privately) it eventually surfaced and quickly impacted my professional reputation at the company. Where I could separate the two worlds and act accordingly, my co-workers could not and I became the target of office gossip. Not worth it.

You can hang out as friends outside of work

Please go for it. You’ll be kicking yourself until you do and even more when the opportunity passes. The downsides are not nearly as low as the upside.

I was somewhat similarly afraid - by turning my high school best friend into an enemy by dating him and now he’s my husband and we have 2 little kids and it’s amazing and chaotic but mostly amazing.

I always consult deathbed Desiree (the end of life alter ego) for big decisions. What would she say? I think yes. But always have an exit strategy.

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I can attest that workplace relationships can be challenging. The cons of pursuing a coworker include potential conflicts of interest, blurred professional boundaries, and the risk of impacting your professional reputation if things don't work out. However, if you're genuinely interested and believe there's mutual interest, it might be worth exploring discreetly. My advice would just be to consider the potential consequences carefully and ensure that any decision you make aligns with your personal and professional values. If you do decide to pursue it, maintain professionalism at work. That's crucial.

It can work. The Obamas are proof of it, but I have also seen it blow up in people’s faces. I would find out if he even likes you like that first. You could be throwing your career away from someone that is looking for miss right now.

One of the most American things would be to choose work over love. Yall are fools!

I mean, I met my husband at a work expo in Vegas? So ya know, run with it, but also know that you need to be careful and one of you will eventually need to move onto another company.

If you’re willing to defecate where you eat, go for it.

It can get weird and uncomfortable for your coworkers too. There’s plenty of places outside of work where you can meet people you’re romantically interested in.