How do you stop trying to be superwoman and let people help you?

I wish it was a simple as just do it but I feel lazy just sitting here even though the surgeon gave explicit take it easy directions.

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It's not easy, especially when you are used to taking care of so many other people and responsibilities. In your situation, it's wise to remember that the surgeon's orders are important or else you could end up with complications that take even longer to recover from. It's a good opportunity to practice delegating things you need done because you simply can't be the one to do it right now. Easier said than done, I know.

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It helps if you have people around you who you trust that you can delegate to. It’s a lot harder when the people around you don’t step up.

I can honestly say everybody stepped up. My parents have been keeping my kids & cooking. Hubby cleaning & making sure I don’t lift, I just feel kazy

Think about the outcome. If you don’t allow help you’ll be setting yourself back or not valuing your time. You can be focused on other things while someone else is doing something else.

I would start by checking my own assumptions. Why does "taking it easy" need to mean that you're being lazy? It sounds like somewhere along the line you've internalized that taking care of yourself or not going as hard as you usually do is a negative thing. You're human, not a machine, and you deserve to rest and have other people help you out when you're in recovery. No one does it all by themselves, and anyone who tells you that is ignoring reality. Rest well and I hope you recover soon! :)

I have this issue and the base of it is trust so I would have to only have people I trust around me

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