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Sounds like your husband is the issue, not your son. Your husband needs parenting classes and counseling before you wind up divorced. Kids don't deserve to be raised in homes where there's so much tension. I would give your husband a choice: either get help or get out. Your son is acting out because his father is failing as a spouse and a parent. You need help to get through this, so I would contact your doctor and see if he can recommend a family counselor. You all need to go. Best of luck
I do know that anxiety and depression looks much different in 11 yr olds versus adults.
Symptoms typically look like defiance, agitation or chip on the shoulder, easily frustrated, impulsive and quick to anger, reckless
If he won’t talk to you about his mood, maybe he’ll talk to a 3rd party? Good luck!
Also look into sleep/sleep apnea and other vitamin deficiencies
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Oy, sounds like he needs an intervention and then a pivot in parenting approach. Lots of conversations and modeling of resilience for little and big things. Conversations once you discover the root cause.
Marriage thing is rough. I’m sad that your husband is like that to an innocent little 11year old. Especially boys need space held, emotions given room to take space and work through, and lots of gentle forgiveness.
My first thought is get him to Doctor and or psychiatrist to see if needs medical help with anger issues
Suggest neurofeedback before meds
Sorry to hear about all the stress - that is rough. My first thought is hormones- he’s probably dealing with a lot and as he enters puberty those hits of testosterone are a lot- he may be confused by it all and struggling with some of the other things you mentioned. Can he pull back on some of his schedule? Sports are really good so maybe pick one as an outlet. I know from experience it’s easier said than done but try to stay calm and reinforce what you don’t tolerate- ie no hitting his sister. Shower him with love and yourself as well- maybe a counselor can help to manage the emotions. Sending you all hugs!
Sounds like might be over-committed to things he himself didn’t commit to, and is lashing out because he’s too young to really process all those feelings and put it into words.
Great input from this thread, appreciate the advice, thank you!