Attending a wedding in USA for the first time this month where I needed to book accommodation at my own cost, with some bulk discount. Is this usual? We were used to big fat Indian weddings where paying for stay for those who are not local, is how it’s done

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Yes. This is usually the case unless the host wants to show off.

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Yes. You are also responsible for your transportation to and from airport, getting around, keeping yourself entertained/busy and meals (outside of the wedding). We had a few self entitled guests from India at our wedding who thought my goal as a bride was to plan their entire trip.

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1-1.5 K is a lot to attend a wedding. I personally wouldn’t pay that much unless it was someone who I am close with…regardless, you can choose any hotel. If a cheaper one makes sense then go for it. If the wedding is being hosted at this hotel sometimes it’s just convenient to stay there. That said, it is very normal for guests to pay for their own accommodations. I know you mentioned that guests aren’t “burdened” in desi wedding but that’s because it’s sadly often the bride’s family that it is and I really don’t want to get into the toxic practices/norms around desi weddings

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This is usual in the US. It’s not necessary to stay at the Hotel with which the couple getting married has tie up and are offering discount. If you can find better option on your own, you can always go for that.

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Got it, helpful to know

I really don’t understand that mentality.. it’s hard enough to plan a wedding, let alone everyone’s accommodations.

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The couple/family covering traveler accommodations is by far the exception, not the norm.

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You also might have to cover your own meals and transportation outside of the wedding festivities :) so to/from the airport, lunch, etc.

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