What to do when parents dig their toes into your relationship? They don't approve of who I'm with and very vocal about it.

In 10 years, this may be in the rear view or they may not let up. Anyone with experience in this?

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If they aren’t budging, only two options: Either you do what your parents want or you do what you want.

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Stand your ground and do what you want.

Your parents don’t get to decide who you want to be in a relationship with.

Make no mistake about this.

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There is no single answer that applies to everyone and every scenario.

First, consider their perspective and try to see if there is merit in what they are saying. It is hard for anyone to think objectively when they are emotionally involved. Having trusted loved ones (family and friends) around to point out our blind spots and help us think clearly is invaluable.

Second, remember that your parents are also human and are susceptible to the same fallacies as you. They may not be thinking about this objectively either. In that case do what you can to bring them along to your perspective. If not move on with your life and hope that they will one day see what you see, appreciate what you have, and be happy for you.

If you aren’t able to figure out who’s right, see if you can take a friend you trust into confidence and see if they can help you think clearly.

Good luck!

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Thank you so much for your response

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Op, love is very hard to come by. If you trust your relationship, do everything to fight for it.

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OP, is the a caste BS thing? I hope not, assuming you are dating an Indian.

Who can you not live without? It may sound harsh but you need to make this worst-case-scenario decision and act accordingly.

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