Damn think I’m back on the market again. What every male friend has told me as a good idea, turns out to be a bad idea after all. I fought to split on first date. I thought him expensive gifts. I wore he was super interested and then not so much. Established exclusivity and etc. Not sure if there was a correlation. But definitely never doing nice things again for a guy.

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Doing nice things to a good guy gets you rewards. Doing nice things to an a** hole doesn't get you anywhere.

Your male friends aren't wrong. You just applied those rules to the wrong guy.

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It sounds like you were trying to control how he felt about you, particularly through money. Attraction can't be bought. And from a financial perspective, there are cheaper and more effective "nice things" to do for a guy than paying for meals and gifts.

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Wow

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I don't believe this explains it.
A practice explored previously is either we take turns or split. I expectation for only for you cover the cost isn't there. So for the first date or so it's a spilt but take turns after.

If you bought me nice things I’d buy you nice things in return!

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Be yourself, don’t be who others want you to be. Just try again. And good luck because it’s hard.

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One person’s actions don’t speak for everyone. Take your time—there are genuinely good guys out there.

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Why wouldn't you want to split the first bill?

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Yup. If you move into an apartment together, and it's not affordable to split in the middle for one person, whoever make a bit more (after general expenses) can pay a bit more. It's a partnership still.

This assumes you are dating and living together eh

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None of those were mistakes as long as feelings were shared

lol, do the right things for the wrong guys, and call the whole gender bad? 👶🏻

Don't close yourself off cause dude was a dumb ass. I know Me as a man I would like that and would match your energy to show my appreciation. Some dudes just to prideful.

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