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Based on observing F friends in dating:
Great pics only. If yours aren't your best possible, do some work, maybe get a pro session
Get some fun and humor in your profiles. And say what you offer, not only what you want
Don't overplay the relationship-only card, start light, aim to have fun, see how it builds from there
1. Submissive - (in topics he can provide better direction).
2. Not being condescending - (when it comes to you providing better direction in topics; especially when I sit on the passenger seat on purpose). It’s all about efficiency, it’s not a competition.
3. Supportive - don’t make things more difficult, most men just want to work and do something they love, nothing more, we are simple logical creatures. Try to make it easier for him, especially when he’s spending time with you. Don’t make him feel like he rather be somewhere else.
4. Independence is great but I don’t think it means what you’re sold by ad campaigns and schools. Independent to be able to do, create, a home and community, why? That’s how you trap his ass. Home and community 1st and career second. (No one’s career should be 1st).
5. Attraction is very important, so trying to learn what he finds attractive, most of the time it’s not just looks and maintenance (which is important as well) but personality how you deal with situations, how you deal with your own family. Do you have control over your emotions.. Guys subconsciously look at this..
6. The door to a man’s heart is his stomach - this has held true for centuries, I doubt this will change. You don’t cook that’s ok, know and learn his likes and dislikes, and eventually you’ll know what and when he wants before he does. Easier for you to control his diet as well. Dude will be trapped.
This is for after a couple dates.
But to get a guy on the hook. You might need to be assertive as this pandemic has created some antisocial behavior with everyone.
Wow! I've learned a lot just from this comment alone! Will definitely take note! Thanks!
Get good pics. Be yourself. Fuck what people are looking for. Why do you think Starbucks has such a long menu?? Something for everyone. Be who are you and someone will come along, you’ll be just the thing.
For me it's intelligence and humor. Of course it's nice if she carrys herself well and I find her attractive but those things aren't enough for me to be really interested in someone. I need to know we won't be sitting around making small talk the entire relationship, and that she doesn't take herself too seriously, because I don't.
Kindness and sound judgement...with some nice ass
Looking for a pension so a teacher is a good start 😂
Honestly some of these answers are so cringe.
Be yourself and find your happy and the rest will follow.
All these advices along the lines of submission and making their dicks hard…
I’m sure if you would be that kind of a girl you would have settled for (and down with) the local ‘alpha pup’ or the mediocre ‘nice guy’ from around the corner.
Trust yourself that you didn’t compromise for what knew you would make you miserable.
As I said in another comment, lower your age range. Many successful men have 10+ y older wives, why not browse that candy yourself.
As C2 said, and as I heard recently somewhere, be unapologetically yourself, because someone will love you exactly for that.
(Also traveling, moving to a bigger city, trying a new dating app, event, hobby, networking event, also helps)
D1, I said "typically translates to" and not "equates". Reading comprehension, mmmkay?
Relationships, sex, companionship, etc are all marketplaces, whether we choose to acknowledge that or not.
"be yourself and the right person will come along" is complete bs. It is theoretical and feels good to say, but won't do much for OP. Shaming what 99% of men want from women will not help OP either.
The only thing OP can do to move towards success is to better provide what men are looking for and place herself in places where the men she wants are. Period(t).
Independence, intelligence and genuineness would be my top three.
In your case- you may have had an unlucky draw. So stay the course mi Amiga.
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Don’t fret, women these days do not want to settle down, for as much as they say they do. When they encounter someone who is, they go away, they seem more attracted to those who aren’t.
My quality? Effort. Show me you’re interested in me. Show me you want to be involved in my daily life. Ask me questions, ask me how I am.
How old are you? The men you’re focusing on may just not be into what you have to offer
VP1 I’m certain you mean well but massive eye roll.
Also: early 50’s 🥹
OP: lower your age range if you haven’t already.
Lead with whatever you want to lead with.
Check out new dating apps. Go out more often to places you are interested in. 🥰 I’m sure you’re just having bad luck or looking in the wrong place. You sound great!
Do things that make my d*ck harder and my life easier.
Things like staying in shape help both categories (healthier partner is less stress and more physically appealing)
Things like not nagging or arguing fall into the latter category
Not getting with a guy you don't actually want to have regular sex with is the former- you may think you can fake it, but that lying won't get you a lasting relationship- most women I've seen cheat/leave either from boredom or guilt over not actually "wanting" their man
So just ask yourself with everything you do: "Am I making his d*ck harder and/or his life easier by doing this thing?". If the answer is " no", do not do that thing......
It’s not about what you have / don’t have . Seems like most don’t want to settle down these days and maybe they are getting that vibe
its not just one thing but i definitely value someone who i can share ideas with as as equal and who i can help/can help me when there are problems either her or i cant face alone or are overwhelming one of us, even if its just listening
It's not you...it's them. You are the prize, always remember that.
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I agree with C3 above. Some very shallow answers here. I’m a late-30s F and only in the past year I had some great success at dating… too much attention lmao.
The secret is to be your authentic self. Be confident being you and you’ll attract like-minded people (friends as well). I can’t tell from your post what you’re like but even if you know this, I think it’s a great reminder.
And try to not focus on the man too much. You’re the chooser, not the other way around. Really, have that mindset and things will change for you—it did for me.