Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

Looking for a husband 🤣

How do you combat being bored with your family during the holidays? Better than having family drama, but I think I need to stop coming home for the holidays.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

How can I get passed cynicism?

Having struggled with visa for the past ~6 years, I have become extremely cynical. I don’t trust real friendships anymore because friends turned into competitors or got too burdened to maintain the friendships.
I feel somewhat disgusted when my coworkers or managers tried to “build rapport” with me.
I understand the value of doing so, but my repulsion inevitably showed through my apparent desire to end small talks as soon as possible.

Breakup etiquette- we broke up and I was supposed to go to his relatives’s wedding in a couple of weeks. I know the couple, not super well, but have hung out and texted individually as well. Should I let them know I won’t be attending and wish them well or don’t reach out to them?

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

I used to be so devoted to my academics that I kind of forgot to make some close friends. How do you reignite your social life after college?

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

My mom has been sick for nearly a week now (fever, fatigue, nausea) but isn't able to get help or tested because she doesn't have respriatory symptoms...yet. Our numbers are definitely underreported.

Anyone want to bar crawl the beltline tonight? I moved here during the pandemic and have no friends around

I need friends. Feel lonely when everyone else is partying up.

What is the appropriate way to sympathize with relatives when their loved ones pass away. I never know what to say on the phone other than ask is everyone ok and I am sorry to hear their loss. Cont...

I feel like I lost most of my friends over the last couple of years. Everyone’s doing their own thing and now I see my closest friends a handful of times each year. Can anyone else relate?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

My aunt recently passed away, leaving behind 2 young girls (16 and 12 years old). I’m trying my best to be there for them and pray for them, and have been asking people to pray for them as well. Until I started question what is the point of asking people to pray for them? I know God hears my prayers, so why do we ask people to pray ?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

I love my SO. We’ve been together for nearly a decade and are talking marriage. I know being with him though will require living far from my family. I love my family and dread the thought of being far from them. My SO has been transparent about wanting to return to his home country. I don’t want to lose him but I also dread being far from my family. What’s the right call here? Fwiw he’s lived in my home country for about a decade now but has been able to visit his pretty easily (cont)

Ok ok plot twist: he’ll propose to Madison and she’ll say NO! Cause she realized how different they truly are... then he goes after Hannah cause his mom told him she was an angel sent from above 😂 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hi, Received CTC breakup on email from HCL HR team but still waiting for the proper offer letter for last three weeks. Any idea how much time Hr takes for releasing the offer letter? My last working day is on ,10-Aug-2022.

What do you do when there’s absolutely nothing going on at work? The projects I’m working on are all in production, and I’ve raised my hand several times about taking on new work, but there’s nothing right now. Don’t get me wrong, the down-time is nice…but I’m hungry to make stuff.

I came across a copywriter position that I’m interested in, but one of the requirements is 8 years of experience. I’m currently just over 5 years. Would it be ok to still apply?

Would like to start a bowl that is more focused on (Western) Europe. Are there a lot of fish here from the European region?

Does anyone know how to unsubscribe from these NY Bar emails? I’ve clicked unsubscribe some 20 times by now

Hi,

How much variable pay will we get in Virtusa? Please consider the average case

And one more thing any idea about yearly hike % ?

Thanks.

Hello Fishes, Can someone confirm what should be the grade and designation in HCL for around 17 years of experience?

I have got offer from HCL - E2 band (Tech lead) 17lpa. Could I further negotiate with them to get my package inflated?

I'm SVP/strategy for a PR agency. I moved into PR, Healthcare, and Strategic Planning only 3 years ago. An agency recruiter is trying to convince me to move into a GSVP account role, assuring me "at that level it's all strategy." (I dont think she understands the words she's using. Or that I'm qualified). But long-term, knowing account roles are so much more plentiful than brand planning in PR, I'm wondering if I should start thinking about account. Anyone here moved from strategy to account?

Is a 110k salary fair for UX Designer in a f-500 organization with the following responsibilities:

Wear many hats in UX, for 7 separate digital products
Flows/Logical solutions for the business
Manage entire design system for the 7 products
Do UI design for the 7 products
Provide spec work for dev teams for each product
Random graphic design requests
Lead a team of 3 designers
Do manager role to organize the work under agile design sprints with Jira boards (daily scrum, refinement, grooming)

What is avg ctc for a manger in EY PAS in Toronto area?

Any guys in LA?

What’s the A/S/L of Fs in here? Better yet, any Fs in the Charlotte/NC area in here?

M/Boston. I’m 49 so apparently it looks like my last year in this bowl…

Anyone in to younger guys?

39M in West LA, looking to meet someone for drinks and see where things go! (Never married, no kids)

Question for F🐠. Someone asks you to keep them company via text, social media, maybe a phone call sometime etc. You'll be payed to do this. Would you do it? And what are your terms?

Anybody wants to chat dirty? 36M here!

Plan on visiting SFO this August and wanted to check if any F is up for drinks or dinner spend some quality time. Male 34 , tall 5 11, brown and happy to message and set up some time if we find each other interesting.

Are text message breakups acceptable? Better than complete ghosting right

Anybody else struggling with the fact that nearly all their friends are coupled up?
Not in an envious way. Just... Damn, this sh*t can leave you very alone.

Any divorcee or single mom 🐠 here? I am separated, and it’s just been hard dating the other cohort. Looking for someone who understands what I have been through. 35 M here

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

I've been avoiding breaking up with someone (I've been dating off and on for a year) for the past few weeks because I can't decide the best way to do it. We're not compatible long-term. He's not seeing anyone else and I've told him I'm seeing other people but he's starting to have relationship expectations for me since we reconnected a few months ago. Any tips for having the conversation? I'd prefer to do it via text but I know people say it's not appropriate and it should be over the phone.

What are you currently looking for? Like the answer below so we can get an idea of what sort of relationships, entanglements, hookups, etc, people are looking for in the bowl.

Anyone in SF/ San Jose? f25

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

I matched with a guy and we initially agreed to meet for the first time this coming Friday. Last Wed, he sent two messages on the app with suggestions but I wasn’t able to text back until Sat because I was traveling. He unmatched me. Am I in the wrong here? How often do you text people in the talking stage? (F in early 30s here)