Has anyone here tried to explore the possibility of swinging/ENM with your better half? How did the conversation go?

Eager to hear thoughts.

Divorce lawyer here. This is how a lot of ENM situations end up, assuming you’re in a heterosexual relationship:
1. Husband wants ENM/open relationship.
2. Wife agrees, Husband is excited and thinks he is going to have all kinds of exciting sexual encounters.
3. Wife inevitably gets way more attention than Husband, Husband gets resentful.

I don’t think a lot of people really consider the implications of their partner being with other people, they focus on them being with other people. Just something to keep in mind.

Always defer to the least comfortable person’s preferences.
Has she ever indicated an interest in it?
Start with some fun hypotheticals - if we were to play with any famous couple who would we pick?
Would it be fun to have people watch us? What would we do to show off?
Sometimes the fantasy of swinging is as good or better than the real thing. Start in this hypothetical fantasy space and see if she wants to move from there. Have patience.

My man is watching a lot of porn these days

I double anyone here did that or would openly admit to doing it successfully. It almost seems it would only work if it was mutual fantasy or kink rather than one person leading the other into it

ENM, yes. It started off as dirty talk, and progressively, the talks became serious. The conversations weren’t always easy, but we were always very open and honest about our feelings and over time, those open and honest conversations led to being comfortable and secure and then actually giving it a try. We were ENM on and off for many years because life happens and priorities change. It hasn’t been the smoothest journey, but it’s definitely been the most fun, and believe it or not, it brought us closer together and we love each other more than ever even after being married now for 20+ years.

For those that think ENM/open relationships are the downfall of a relationship, I believe, are just ignorant about non-traditional relationships, insecure about their own relationships, or just very close-minded. These same people tend to forget that almost half of traditional, monogamous marriages end in divorce. My point is that it’s the people in a relationship that are the key indicator on whether it will work out, not because a relationship is ENM or monogamous. Just like any relationship, no matter what the dynamic is, it may not pan out the way you hope or turn out how you envisioned it, but at the same time, it may pan out the way you hope or turn out how you envisioned it…sometimes even better.

I think as long as you openly communication, are sexually compatible, have the ability to have compersion for your partner, and most importantly, respect your relationship, you’ll put yourself in a great position to have fun exploring together.

I think you might be damaged emotionally bro. Have you considered therapy?