I keep forgetting that I need to downplay my career for men so they don’t walk away early on in the talking stage.

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You don’t need to downplay any part of yourself when it comes to finding the right person for you. Someone else’s insecurities is not a reason to dim your light. My partner is very proud and supportive of my career.

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Are you able to or interested in moving? I find networking spaces & events at least put you in the room with suitors who are already on your level. Especially, if it’s not a free event. This might be your part of compromise. Major cities that also have a healthy mixture of high earners & high compatibility. I’m in NYC. There are always places & networking spaces & events going on. All week. Last night I went to an Art Gallery it was amazing. You usually start out with common interest in common rooms then friendship etc. The more visible the better. Wine tastings are good as well.

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I agree with the other posts. It’s a pretty big red flag 🚩 if a man cannot handle you talking about your career. So to reframe things, there are benefits to speaking about it early before you end up investing too much into such a person.

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Yeah ….. don’t do that. The right guy will not be intimidated or insecure. Be you at all times. And, if they walk away, that’s time and emotions saved.

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If they walk away let them. You have to be proud of your job and accomplishments. If men are walking away because you are more professional or advanced in your career then that's a gift because you've weeded out men who were insecure, looking for a hookup, looking for a temporary toy, looking for someone to control, or recognized that you are outside of their range. If this is happening often then I suggest you meet men in different channels, demographics (age, race, nationality), matchmaking service, etc. Consider a dating coach. Level up not down. Good luck!

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If you have to downplay anything, it’s not the right guy for you.

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