Ladies, how u manage the realization that you (i mean ME in my case)) did wrong career choices/not right priorities in life.
and now reached 43 y.o. doing a stupid type of job, demotivated, and feeling like fracaso (failure).
(p.s. i do have psychologist, but i do not have a family or man or kids or savings or a property). So it feels like failure in all aspects

You can’t show up late for your own life. It might not look like you think it “should.” But you get to decide to move towards the life you want today.

I was just thinking about this the other day in regard to my own life path and the rollercoaster that is my career trajectory, which looks more like a scatter chart than a trending upward line chart. I would not appear to be successful, wealthy, established, or well respected in my industry. To many these things are important and a measure of worth, to me it just a list. I have lived a crazy unconventional life intentionally because it felt right to me. To get past the norm, you sometimes have to embrace being uncomfortable and just go for it. Live the life you design.

Life is not over yet.

I’m sorry to hear this. Maybe you could focus on or reframe what your life has been so far? Maybe you didn’t spend all your time working, saving, or taking care of kids but you had the freedom to travel and create amazing memories and experience different things. You might have wonderful stories, if you think about it instead of thinking about what you don’t have. Whatever you did over the past 43 years, I’m sure some of it was worthwhile and you’re not a failure.
Now for the next 43 years, if you know what you want then go get it!

I'm in the same boat. But... I just keep going. Kind of all you can do. I try to enjoy the things I've done right, and dwell less on the missteps. But it's hard, and I also realized that a midlife crisis is actually a series of crises... And I hope the good days are better than the bad.

You need purpose. And purpose is Health, Goals, being helpful to others, BEING YOU. You have to start being a good human and you’ll enjoy every day a little better

Something that helps me when I feel this way is to think about how much life there is and it’s never too late.

Julia Child and Martha Stewart started their brands in their 40’s.

Vera Wang started her fashion brand in her late 40’s.

Roy Kroc created McDonalds in his 50’s.

Kris Jenner was 52 when she kicked off the Kardashian empire with season 1.

Toni Morrison wrote her first book in her 40’s and didnt get a Nobel prize until her 60’s.

Life is just getting started for you! How can you spend the next few years building a safety net and growing to do something purpose driven. Can you start volunteering somewhere or start a hobby?

The problem with life is, you can only live once… no matter what decision we’ve taken, there are other options that could’ve let us down other paths, but we only have the privilege of experiencing one of them. Don’t beat yourself up because not only is there nothing you can do about it after the fact, but you have no idea if you would’ve been any happier in any of those other paths. It’s all conjecture.

All you can do is look forward and be intentional about any decisions you make going forward. I also recommend giving yourself permission to live the life you want, not the life you think you should have… I live in an old house, drive an old car, still have clothes that I’ve had for 20 years, and I spend way too much on owning a horse and travelling to my favourite places so I feel like I am winning :-)

Start making decisions that take you toward greater happiness, now. You’re still make mistakes and go down side roads, but that’s how life works. You don’t need anyone else or anything else to be happy – you just need to know yourself, and act on that knowledge, and then live whatever happens. Sounds like you are getting there and I wish you all the luck ♥️

Regroup and change how you feel!

The issue is lack of goals and action.

Let me know if you’d like to work with me. I can help you set goals and achieve them.

You are good! You are now ready to pivot. So identify your skills and move forward from there to choose what you want to do next.