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My standard response, especially to white folks who feel too comfortable:
A. "What should I sound like?"
B. "Are you just confused becuase I am not poor?"
No one who says this, especially outside the culture, is a friend. Our blackness is caricture to folks who have this line of thinking, not a part of our identity, and I give no quarter to that foolishness.
Great responses! And I agree! Especially with the caricature thing smh.
Got this a ton growing up but late 30s now and it appears my circle has matured because I haven’t heard that comment in several years.
Yes, this! All the time growing up, but never now, and not for at least a decade, in my late 30s as well. The circle you are around plays a big role into this.
Growing up and in college, I hated this. It was so shocking I didn't always know what to say. I actually had to point out to another friend of color (different race) that his comments were offensive, ignorant, and if I suggested the same of him, how would he feel. I also loved pointing out that statistically, most black people are middle class in the US. I didn't get any apologies, but it definitely stops people in their tracks/forces them to think more critically. That said, I still have well-meaning friends who feel the answer for dating must be to go outside my race because I'm so clearly familiar with/grew up around white culture. There is nothing wrong with interracial relationships; I have experienced multiple, but I find it offensive that's put forth as the blanket "solution" and the implication that is where the best match will "obviously" come from. I call that out, as well as the fact folks conveniently forget their own white-adjacent upbringings. People think it's different from calling you an oreo, though, so again, I break it down for them and shut that down.
Smh sorry you had to experience all that. Those are some good responses and things to point out.
My “friends” (non black) would say similar things to me all the time - that they could only see me with a white man because I’m just sooo white. I have nothing against interracial dating either, just prefer black. Anyway it kinda made me feel good to prove them wrong and go on and date/ be with a bunch of black men.
I'm the Whitest Black Person You Know 🙄
Smh I had a white female friend that would say this all the time. Like hello you don’t even know any other black people besides me? Needless to say we are no longer friends lol.
Yes always been the oreo
Yes but funny it’s from white girls. I guess what the media pushes and portrays about black women. I haven’t experienced it from others. Also my friends are professionals. They use proper grammar as well. Lol
Haha good for you. Yea I particularly hate it from white people because you’re telling me I can’t be black and talk normal, have an education, a good job etc.
Yep. Since childhood. Fun times.
Story of my life. Even worse after marrying outside of my race. Now I don't care as much as I did before but it bothers me more coming from other Black people.
I’m sorry. People are so ignorant. But it’s good you’re more unbothered as time goes on.