Help. My husband is not exactly mad at me, but he’s not happy with me. That’s for sure. And it’s because I’m working too much. But I don’t have a choice in the matter! I’m overworked and we need the money. He’s taking care of our son waiting for me to be finished, and I can understand the resentment, but it sure doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel fair. But I know his having to do so much of the parenting alone can’t feel fair either. Anyone else?

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I think a lot of couples go through this, and it's worth having a conversation. He needs to understand that your extra hours are helping y'all survive financially. But there may be things you could do to offset the stress for both of you. I think it's worth a deep conversation about the resentments that are building up

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Thanks!

We juggled this same arrangement when my daughter was little. He was in the process of going back to school taking online classes while I was the primary breadwinner. It was hard on both of us. Me because I was working a ton and missing out on time with our daughter, him because he was parenting almost full time while still trying to study. It isn't fair, but you have got to find a way to communicate and lessen each other's loads however and whenever possible. I also think it helps having a hard end date to work toward. Knowing there's light at the end of the tunnel makes it mentally easier to get through those long days: you just have to make it to x date and things will get easier. Wishing you guys all the best. I know it's hard, but you're going to get through this!

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Thanks so much!

I have been there. Those things can take a tolll on a marriage and sometimes it gets to a point where there is no going back. I am sorry you are going through that right now.

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Thanks.

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