How common is it in the West to seek divorce if the sexual compatibilities of a couple do not match? I come from a background where individual needs are usually outranked by everything else. I sometimes feel that I am wasting years of my life loving, providing and caring for a woman who simply does not reciprocate in bed. I often get the urge to walk out of this marriage but cannot due to children and other things involved. Looking for advice from someone who has dealt with this.

I feel , you need to understand your wife what she needs. Normally women need more emotional attachment like some praise, before she asks you will understand. Try to be a good listener as they want to tell you so many things and want you to be involved in those things. Try to go out for dinner or party before she asks.

As a woman, I feel some husband (not all so don't urge here) only wants sex in bed without any conversation and feeling.i think when I was trying to convey anything. He is busy in mobile and don't answer. Don't take stand in front of family. Though I love him a lot but in my mind always comes the one thing he just wants sex . Because he will be angry if one day's delay or period time. Don't understand me so much. I corporaate with him when he wants as I know he is a good guy not able to express his feeling how I want. It's 10 years of love marriage .I am still trying to express my feelings so that he will try to behave somewhat i want . We love each other very much that I know.

Divorce is the last thing someone can take decision. Situation will be different for you. Just make a try to understand her. I hope there is no extra marital affair from both sides. Otherwise whatever we will try, it is waste of time.

I am from east of the globe and I had similar situation. When I talked about this I understood that my wife was not curious or interested in any intimacy. She used to consider it as byproduct of marriage which makes it bit artificial. We had a difference of opinion about how frequently should we be engaged. I understood it's not working. Fortunately it happened within 3 months of the marriage so we decided to part ways.

I can relate to you in this and I feel intimacy is the core of relationship which helps you achieve longevity. So talk it out and understand. Listen to yourself and be honest. There's no wrong or right in this morally but it's more about what you wish to to have.

So be vocal and talk it out

It sounds like you’ve had discussions with her about this - what was her response?

She earlier was reluctant to part ways but we tried to work it out for 1 month
Since it was just the beginning, the spark should be at its best considering it fades to some extent later. We were suffering at the beginning itself and people might judge me for this but intimacy for me is non negotiable. We can reach terms or plan a schedule but if it disappears, then it means there's no love left.
Eventually I convinced her that f we can't match somewhere, it makes no sense to keep this going. She was not ready but rather than staying married and then cheating outside, it makes perfectly sense to conclude this in dignified manner.

Eventually she agreed and with mutual concent we parted ways !

I can help you on this

Maybe you need to please her the right way or ask what she wants in the bedroom.