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From experience, you're better off alone than trying to fit into a circle that doesn't want you. I'd keep your relationships with them strictly professional. Don’t hang out with people who don’t want to hang out with you. Unless you can think of something you’ve done to possibly put them off, then let it go.
I am afraid of missing out on promotion opportunities. Maybe I am just being paranoid.
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They’re so sensitive. If you’re smarter than them, they get offended and leave you out. If you’re a woman who is beautiful, they get jealous. If you’re fit, they hate you. If you don’t kiss 🍑, you’re not in the group. It’s not the best to be left out because management likes the people in the group rather than not but the drama in the group is another level. I hate it but I was also left out and my management team hated me.
Thanks BOA1. You are so right.
Yes this has definitely happened to me but honestly, I don't mind being part of it so I just kind of hung back until they started inviting me again. I just really don't have time to let it bother me.
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I got ousted from the firm for not being “a team player” because I wasn’t part of the group and wasn’t interested in being part of the drama group
That can be tricky. I guess that first of all you should try to figure out if you did something to get yourself excluded. And try to make amends, or reverse whatever it was. Beyond that, just make whatever attempts you can to socialize. Engage in casual conversations, try to find common ground. Express an interest in what your colleagues are up to. Yes, that means listening to their tiresome stories, but, that's what being in the social circle is all about sometimes. Maybe by hanging out you can get your way back in.
Thanks A1. I am not sure what I did wrong. But moving forward, I will try to be more social and agreeable.
New to this so here goes. If you are concerned about promotion then I would not worry too much from a social aspect unless they have influence. Stick to what the company goals and ethos is and focus on being proactive with those. The only thing I’d be concerned from what you’ve put is a toxic environment if you are falling out of a exclusive social circle, it just doesn’t give an inclusive culture feel - I’d be questioning is this really where I want to be if that is the case.