I'm in a heavily male-dominant group, and every time we lock in a big client, we go out for a celebration. Being a new hire, I feel really obliged to attend these, but I'm not the kind of person who enjoys big gatherings in general, and especially not happy hours/parties. I'm saving up for a house and really care about my job and having a deep-rooted connection with my team. How do I respectfully get out of these situations?

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You wouldn't lose your job for not attending parties. You could say something like, "Thank you so much for inviting me to celebrate. I really appreciate the team's camaraderie, but I'm focusing on saving for a house right now and prefer quieter evenings. I'd love to catch up with everyone during work hours or in smaller settings." I'm sure they would understand that you still value your team relationships while being honest about your needs.

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