Is marriage actually worth it for women? Seems like a negative ROI according to a bunch of studies about how the happiest demographic are single women.

I think women should be really careful about who they marry. Ask the tough question, get on the same page, make a life plan, etc. make sure you share values and a lifestyle.

Don’t marry men who do not split the mental load equally. Date, then live together, before marriage to figure these things out. My husband and I have very deliberately divided the mental load of our life together, and it’s awesome. There are so many things I no longer have to worry about - he handles all pet things, cell phone, internet, subscriptions, etc

On a purely financial front, I had a micro-wedding, and married someone with similar financial goals and habits. We’ve been able to build so much more savings than I would have separately. It also provides insurance if you lose your job (if you both have good jobs).

Basically, a good marriage is amazing, but be really careful and honest with yourself.

Not to me personally, also because it’s likely that it won’t last so I don’t see the point of spending so much time and money organising a wedding. I’m single and love my life. I’m also biased because since I became single a year ago I’ve been appalled by the number of married men who have tried things with me both online and in real life…

I see being single as a neutral state, a good marriage will be better, a bad marriage will be worse. So it’s only good ROI if you pick the right person

Don’t get married. Men benefit, women lose in marriage. Married nearly 10 years. I never think “wow, this is great! I’m def. Living the life! I’m so happy I married him.” We bear the burden of everything, work, children, household. I rather have a robot as a husband.

It’s so good if it’s the right person! I would chose to be single over marrying someone that I’m not 110% over. And that was what I was deciding to do until I met my current husband. If this man doesn’t make your life much much better than if you’re on your own then don’t marry him (I’m talking about finances, resources, network, emotional support, family support, etc)

It depends.

In countries such as South Asia women are expected to perform a lot of physical labor, e.g. cooking, cleaning, childcare, as part of the marriage. My Mother did this for me, and I don’t think it was fair to her.

In western countries you don’t have these expectations and it can be much better.

Ultimately each woman needs to decide for herself what she wants.

If you pick the right person it is amazing. Celebrating 30 year anniversary this year.

ROI is in the eye of the beholder. Companionship ROI? Financial? Child bearing? Etc. etc.

Certainly not as cut and dry as it was historically for women.

Key is finding the right partner like D1 said. From a a financial perspective I married for love (in my 20s college sweetheart) but the amount of wealth we’ve been able to accumulate I wouldn’t be able to do it on my own as we live mostly off his income, and can retire in our early 40s even with 2 small children. That ROI worked out for me. Neither one of us came from money or have had parents give us anything to help with this wealth building either.

From a purely statistical standpoint no, but social conditioning is strong.

If the person elevated your life then yes, otherwise no