Lost my job yesterday, and for some reason, the hardest part seems like it's telling my teen boys that I did. I don't want to feel powerless in front of them but I'm also catching myself making up these unnecessary definitions of what power is. Guess I've really been attached to my position and my job, and I don't know how to function without them. How did you navigate these feelings when you got laid off?

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Losing a job doesn’t erase your worth or identity, though I know it can feel like it does. I’m really sorry you’re going through this, especially when so much of who we are can get tied up in what we do. But maybe, just maybe, this could be the start of something new. Have you thought about what this moment might make space for in your life? Now, you are open to a million possibilities, take the time to think about it, and use bad news into something amazing, and you will be proud to share with your kids that life happens, but we decide what to do with it.

I'm still navigating them. So much of my self worth was tied up in work. It's hard to make sense of the life I'm living now compared to the one I was living just 6 months ago. I don't think there's an easy way to process them. You just have to give it time and take things day by day.

You will be setting a great example for them by figuring it out. Nothing in life goes perfectly, and more than a few times in my adult life, I’ve been at a loss for what’s next. Your job is just one piece of your life, and I think that’s something I learned the hard way after being laid off, too.

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