My husband bought me two nice bouquets of flowers for valentines which I loved and appreciated, and I have them out on our dinning table. But the next day I found him trying to take flowers out of the vases to bring to his mom’s house. He says it’s too many flowers and thought it would be nice to bring his mom some too.
Am I wrong for feeling irked? He stopped when he saw me upset but now I don’t even want to see the flowers anymore.

Yeah he is dead wrong for that.

The audacity!

He easily could’ve said upfront “one of these is my mom’s, but I won’t see her until tomorrow so I’m gonna put them in a vase here now and take them tomorrow”

Who cares? They are just flowers. The flowers will die. Instead of being a curmudgeon, spread the joy and stop letting stupid stuff affect you. You should have offered up one of the vases and told him just to take a whole bouquet to her. That’s how how you can show that you love and appreciate him. PEOPLE matter, not things.

Ugh I'd hate seeing the flowers too at that point. If he had gotten one for you and one for his mom, fine. But he doesn't get to take back something he already gave you.

That would upset me too. It’s nice that he wants to do something thoughtful for his mom, but it shouldn’t come at your detriment

I don’t see a problem with him gifting flowers to his mom or your mom. It’s a nice gesture. Think of it if you were his mother wouldn’t u want your son to bring u flowers?

I gave three valentines cards to my kids. After giving them, without writing names on them, I was immediately thinking of how to give again.

Flowers are a little different. But I always say don’t waste flowers on me. Give me plants or pruners to cut plants, not dying flowers. I’d be so much happier then wasted money spent on dying flowers can go to another — and older moms who probably don’t get a lot of love.

I would not be bothered, I appreciate the beauty and thoughtfulness of flowers but I am not into material gifts and if flowers would make my MIL happy then share the joy! The flowers will only last so long anyway. Let go of the little stuff, life it too short to focus on trivial things.

He was wrong for sure but it’s a good sign that he stopped when he saw you were upset. If you expressed your feelings, and he respected your wishes, it may be best to just let it go. Definitely don’t let it ruin the flowers for you! Or ask him to go get two new bouquets and he can give those to his mom lol

It’s not your job to offer up anything your husband got you to his mother. When he remembered to give his mother flower why was his instinct to take from what he’s already brought to you? Why not just go get another bouquet? Even the grocery store or Trader Joe’s has affordable ones these days. It’s not your job to train him to think of his mother, that’s a reflection on their relationship. If this were me, the whole bouquet would go to her house in the moment and later I’d have a clear discussion as to why his mind went there and not to purchase new flowers or even when he bought 2 bouquets to give one to her before even offering it to you. This isn’t about your relationship with his mom but his.