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Yes! I think it's kind of like a sunk cost fallacy - We're spending so much already, an extra couple hundred on customizing the bar napkins is "nothing" compared to the total cost so we should spring for it.
Something that's helped me avoid spending more than I need/want to is to think about other weddings I've been to. Did I notice the color of the tablecloths and napkins? Did I care about the bar napkins? Do I remember what the invitations looked like? No, no, and no. So unless upgrading stuff like that is truly important to me, I won't spend more on it than necessary.
The issue is I definitely noticed the little details at other weddings and loved them 😭 but I understand most won't care
I just put down a deposit for ribbons to go about the silverware. I'm not proud but they were the. perfect accent color and we need two hundred of them
I didn't even know people put ribbons around the silverware and now I am wondering if this is something I need....LOL
Not even a little bit
Yepppppppppppp. The real question is did we build some space into the budget for incidentals? I did so it's mostly okay.
I thought I did, but the budget I sat aside was basically nothing compared to how much stuff actually cost
They seem random to everyone else but to me they are essential
Yes and yes
Firstly, it never occurred to me how expensive weddings actually are. I feel like plates alone are like $1,000
I do!!! I'm trying to stop. I can tell my fiancee is getting annoyed. He budged on a few things but I can tell at this point he's feeling like I'm overdoing it
Aww, if it's your first wedding I understand. But remember the marriage and relationship with your partner are way more important than the wedding. The wedding is only for one day. Don't come into the wedding with tension just for one day
My husband and I have been married for 14 years and we have a wedding renewal every 5 years. We are planning our third renewal now and at this point after planning 3 ceremonies already, we could careless about the small details lol
Oooh my husband and I were thinking about doing this every 10 years — how big are your renewals? Do you have a full party?
ALLLLLL the time. Its literally so hard to stick to the budget. And weddings are expensive enough a it is. \
All the time, but I have to stop myself for the bigger picture. Wedding planning is HARD. It’s putting on a full-scale event. Most people lack formal training in vendor selection and management, event planning, design, negotiation, or budgeting. We’re all just doing our best.
Lol yes...also using this as an excuse to buy like a million shoes bc it's my weakness and I want lots of options for the day. Irrational but I can't help it!
Agreed I feel like I’m getting all these specific outfits for the weekend that would be potentially weird to wear again in normal settings
You are not alone on this, OP. The urge is so strong that I need to constantly remind myself that I don't need those things.
I was on the verge of paying 8k just for rented chargers and special glassware that’s nicer than what the caterer is going to provide. But I finally told myself I have to chill lol
2k of that cost was just for delivery / pick-up and renting the cases the glassware comes in. So dumb. But I am so influenced by seeing stunning tablescapes with vintage coupe glasses etc. have to draw the line somewhere though