For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

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Relax and don’t expect everything to be perfect. There will be at least one thing that doesn’t go as planned but it will still be the best day ever.

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1. You don’t have to keep any traditions you aren’t comfortable with. I wasn’t comfortable being watched for our full first dance, so we asked people to join in partway through. We still got our special moment, but I enjoyed it so much more that way.
2. I’m so grateful we got a good photographer and videographer. The night went by so fast, and it’s been so fun going through the photos.
3. agreed with VP1 - embrace that some things may go “wrong.” Our DJ played my processional song at the wrong time and it actually wound up making people laugh and lightened the mood.

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A GIANT bug literally flew down the front of my dress during the ceremony. One of ly bridesmaids ended up having to reach in from the top then from underneath to get it out. During the ceremony. Like first 2 minutes.

We still laugh so hard at it

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Some tips from my wedding! 1. Try to relax and enjoy the day. It literally goes by in the blink of an eye, don’t worry about circling tables, etc. focus on you and your partner and you’ll be thankful you did. And you’ll also avoid any family drama or whatever may creep up. 2. Have your caterer pack food for you guys! We barely touched our dinner plates and I missed all the passed around apps at cocktail hour because I got hung up mingling with everyone. You’re going to be so hungry post wedding and you’re spending good money on food! 3. Give your photographer a detailed shot list so they get everything you want. You might assume they’ll tick off all the boxes but some won’t and it’s better to be OCD than regret anything post wedding. 4. Most important, do what YOU want. My MIL tried to strong arm me in her and my husbands dad walking him down the aisle and I had already planned to have both my parents walk me down long before she brought it up. Her defense was its Jewish tradition but our ceremony was totally non denominational. It might be some awkward convos but at the end of the day it’s your day and even if parents are helping to fund the wedding they should be able to compromise.
If you’re funding it yourselves even better, tell them to bug off :)

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The food thing is such a good tip! Also the photographer - it'll be the first time our family has gotten together so I def want more family reunion pics than a typical wedding.

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