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I am a full stack developer java, springboot, microservices, angular, oracle, inhouse cloud.
As a 602 with 12.6 YOE
Got 10 % mid year hike on a fine day unexpectedly which pushed my cctc to 29.2
We have 60k ceo bonus and 18% variable pay I am getting since last 4 years.
After checking lot of posts here it seems I am on low ctc here.
How much should I target next and which companies ?
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It doesn’t matter - you don’t want kids then you shouldn’t have them! It’s that simple. Don’t bring kids into this world if you don’t genuinely want them. More money for adventures anyway. (I say as a pregnant person lol)
More specifically—don’t bring kids into this world if you don’t genuinely want to parent them.
Me!! We are very happy being cat parents who travel frequently. Most of my colleagues who are married have kids, are pregnant, or are trying to have kids but I’m very much set in my decision to stay child free.
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Totally. I have kids but I have 4 close friends who do not and never intend to.
I had one, and now that I have one I cannot imagine what I would do if I lost them, BUT I can definitely imagine never having had one. Both lifestyles can yield great (or not great) lives. You must do what’s best for you. I don’t think people judge the childless the way they may have in the past. (Furthermore, you don’t have to decide until you age out, if you’re a woman. I had mine at 40, and I was definitely not alone in doing that.
I got lucky, and got pregnant right away, as did a couple of my friends, who also had babies in their late thirties/early forties. A lot of people do have trouble, though, so there are reasons for getting started a year or two earlier, if you really want to have your own. (Obviously adoption and fostering have higher age-out thresholds.) Ask your gyno. They can tell you what your hormonal levels are, and how nervous you should be.
My S.O. & I are not married, but we’ve been together 15 years. We don’t want to have children. There were a good number of childfree partners/counsel at my prior firm. I’m in-house now though & I’m definitely in the minority. Genuinely though, no one has ever cared. People make more comments about my marital status than they ever have about my being childfree.
Same experience: I get more comments about being unmarried in a very LTR than I do about not having kids.
Yep! We’re involved in our friends’ kids lives and our nieces and nephews, but prefer to give them back at the end of the day.
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No kids and no intention of ever having them.
My firm has quite a few childfree partners and, oddly, my husband’s friend group is full of married people (15+ years) choosing to be childfree… it’s so many couple that it feels statistically unlikely for my husband to be close friends with this group. We’re having our first kid in a couple months and expected our friend group to withdraw from us, for any number of reasons but, for example, I don’t actually like other people’s kids and don’t expect anyone to like mine…the kid is not here yet, so TBD, but we’re planning not to let it ruin our lives or be the only thing we talk about.
All that to say, I fully support the childfree lifestyle and hope for myself that my childfree friends still like hanging out with me (and will do my best to still be a normal conversationalist).
I'm a profesh aunt / him an uncle and we love it!
Married 20 years with no kids and glad to be child-free every single day!
Hi fellow mid 30s married without kids and we are pretty sure we won’t change our minds. You are not alone 💖