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What state are you in? You can record him without his consent in some states.
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Sorry to say this but yes I have, and the best thing you can do is leave.
Thank you for your advice. That’s how I unfortunately feel. Nothing is ultimately going to be done to that individual
Omg, I'm so sorry. I haven't personally dealt with that but I can't imagine how hard it must be. I assume you have to work closely with him if this continues to happen? I think you just have to start applying elsewhere. Unfortunately HR will probably work harder to protect him than you.
I have dealt with that in a past role and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It is so uncomfortable to report it and then they act like you did somethinig wrong. But I encourage you to report it and make sure your voice is heard.
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First off - I would talk to an employment lawyer first before reporting. The lawyer can help with identifying ways to “gather proof” when no one else can verify it. Find out how long you have to file a complaint if you leave the company and what you need to not sign when you leave.
Do not talk to HR until you have talked to your own personal lawyer.
Remember that any recording that you do must be facts only. No emotional additives.
A few “ways” could be recording without his concent (if you are in a state that allows that)
Another way is emailing the person after the encounter stating the conversation that occurred, the action or statement that was inappropriate and ask him to stop. (BBC yourself and save it). Even more kudos if you can send a bbc email to your personal email.
Keep a log (offsite) with the date, time, encounter, the email you sent. Any fallout that occurred etc.
If he is doing it to you - he is probably doing it to someone else. Even if you don’t file. Keep your notes safe. It could raise its ugly head again and someone could need your support.
Document. Document. Document. Take notes with dates/times/what was said. Record him. And ultimately, get a lawyer.
Reminder: HR is not there to protect you. They are there to protect the company.