Has anyone here successfully "managed up" to a covert narc and dismissive avoidant boss? I'm hoping he leaves but it's unlikely.

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Yes, and it's absolutely exhausting. I've found that you have to feed their ego by letting them know how much smarter they are than you, without giving them enough ammunition to say you're failing or a problem. What's also worked for me is finding ways to impress your boss's boss. When their boss sees you as a star player, it makes it incredibly difficult for your boss to spew anything toxic about you. It also helps to keep them in check because it allows them to brag about how your successes were somehow orchestrated by their leadership.

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Thank you for this! It just proves, if you focus on the work, you win

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Impossible. Mediocre men rule the world. Sorry to say. If you complain death, if you flatter they don’t care, if you do great work they get threatened and retaliate. Impossible

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We can’t forgot that some women are worst that the men

Save the world from dismissing, attention grabbing, reflector-seeking, opportunistic, unhelpful toxic bosses

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I have tried and failed

Are you trying to dethrone a president?

No. I just want a leader that is non-toxic and engaged, so that I can run my business effectively.

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