I am a grown woman, happily married. I have a crush at work. Pretty sure it's mutual. He is also happily married. Any tips for accelerating this crush running its course? I feel like a fool fluttering every time he pauses in my doorway or seeing we're both signed in working late at night from home. Or should I just embrace the innocent kicks while they last because life is short?

Think about your early relationship with your spouse and try to get that new energy into what you already have. Get excited when he is helpful, caring and protective. Make a list of the things he does that you have come to take for granted. Do something fun and novel.

are you sure you are a grown woman. Doesnt seem like it by your childish behaviors. Relationship is not a joke. Please introspect.

There is a problem in your marriage; fix it or end it, but infidelity is never a good idea.

Unlike when guys post how do they have an affair, I think OP means how does she get over the crush so she doesn't have a crush anymore, not how does she accelerate this into a relationship. OP - it'll run it's course (he'll do or say something stupid, gross, or offensive, and you'll naturally get over it).

How about respecting your partner and not cheat on them?

Embrace the innocent kicks because life is short. When is the last time you had a crush on someone? How long until the next time?

Smile, enjoy the moment, and it will pass in time. But enjoy the butterflies. Oh, to feel like a high school kid again…

I feel sorry for your husband

I’m glad you have the sensibility to recognize this is a distraction of something that needs to go away rather than getting swept up in the excitement of a crush which can lead to flirting and then it’s all downhill from there.

Very easy solution. Most guys get turned off when a woman that they might have interest in shows her bodily functions. So - and I mean this seriously - burb and fart in front of him when you see him. It’ll be embarrassing for you but it’ll nip this in the bud and save your marriage. Not kidding.

Don't venture into infidelity territory. You both will destroy two families.

Get to know him better. You'll get over it very soon

I think remembering that fantasies are just that, the idea of this new guy would not be what reality with him would look like (not to mention the destructive path you'd have to go through to get there). i for one think this kind of thing is pretty harmless and not worth over thinking. and definitely not worth pursuing

It’s one thing if you have an attraction but no contact with this person. If you have contact and there’s an attraction, id be careful- emotional affairs can creep into one’s live quickly, and they’re are far more dangerous than strictly a one night stand lets say. While an emotional connection may they seem innocent at first the deeper the connection, the more complicated the relationship becomes. Then it’s no longer a crush- it’s an affair

in the same situation at the moment. But I know where to draw the line.

I guess it depends what your goals are

I wouldn't think too much about it. I'm guessing this is just a passing thing that will dissipate once the novelty wears off. As long as you're not tempted to act on it, I don't think it's worth worrying about.

Remember that not only could this blow up your marriage, but your job, reputation, income, children’s livelihood, etc.

These types of things aren’t just about you. It disrupts everyone else’s lives too.

Besides, you think this guy would make you as happy as your husband?

@OP - I bet many have misunderstood your post😅
I would suggest don’t think of it much, just enjoy it. 🥂

Spice it up with your husband.

Can u connect with me

Focus on and fix your marriage.

Imagine the feedback you’d give your spouse if they said the same thing.