I have a student who is perfectly behaved, does all the work, and gets straight As, but they've barely spoken a single word in class for six months. I’m worried they’re falling through the cracks. I want to reach out, but I don't want to cause them unnecessary anxiety if they're just naturally introverted. How do you all make sure your ghost students feel seen without traumatizing them?

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If they’re getting straight As and aren't causing trouble, maybe feeling seen is the last thing they actually want from you right now. Sometimes the best gift you can give a quiet kid is the space to just exist.

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If they're getting those grades, they're not slipping through the cracks. Leave them be. Some kids are just introverted. I sure was.

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You could call them up and many others to just do a "check in" and see if there is anything else that they need from you. Also you could email home and just say that you are enjoying their student and they are doing great and you appreciate how well they are doing in your class. That way you can do an check and make sure that they are not falling through the cracks. Parent love to hear this too!!!

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Retired science teacher here. My suggestion is for you check the student's file for an EIP or any other issue documented. Second, if the student receives instruction from other teachers besides you, have a conversation with them. Thirdly, PRIVATELY & TACTFULLY praise the student's work and performance - even give a small token such as a tiny notebook or set of colorful sticky notes, etc. 4th, you may give the student "teacher assistant" chores, such as delivering something (your lesson plan, a book, etc.) to another teacher and re-eval the stud's behavior. Also, students from some cultures, such as Chinese and Hispanic, behave much quieter than others. Your student is obviously very focused and high achieving, which may also be a family expectation.

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dont come to them in the middle of class

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I use Padlets, think/pair/share and a lot of partner and small group work with students like that in mind. They were the majority in my classes until recently. For some, being quiet in class is cultural—-meant to show deference and respect. For others, it’s fear of saying the wrong thing or looking stupid. I typically avoid whole class discussions and rotate among my small groups instead but this year I’ve found my students as a whole are more talkative. Part of it is them recognizing that this reticence is a problem and deciding to do something about it. Many make a point of putting themselves out there and speak up in class for the sake of the sake of the group and for personal growth.

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You can pull them aside when you’re alone and just check in. But I wouldn’t worry about it if they’re doing well in school. A lot of people are naturally shy and don’t like to talk out in class.

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As someone who was that student, work on building a relationship with them. My art and drama teacher really helped me become more verbal by just being there for me, encouraging me, and getting to know me. She didn't push me on anything, but made sure to highlight what I was doing well and gently nudging me in the right direction if needed. I can't thank her enough for that, and we're good friends today.

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