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Hi Folks,
Hope you are doing well, I need valuable suggestion on few of my queries.
I had joined KPMG(KGS) on April 2022, during the interview i have been told that i would be working on Java Backend Development as my background belongs to same technology and my interview was also happened on Java/Spring/Microservices; but they put me on Low-Code / No code Platform and its totally tool based work. I am frustrated with the current work as i didnt find anything productive to learn.Continued in com KPMG @
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Defensive calendaring. I have recurring blocks for daycare dropoff and pick up, as well as family dinner/bedtime. I also look at my week ahead either on Friday or Monday and schedule time to actually do the work I need to do (ideally 90 min blocks) so my day doesn’t get totally eaten up by meetings. This helps me to actually get things done during the day rather than having to always do the actual work at night, and also gives me a more realistic picture of my capacity so I can give better estimates for turnaround and/or decline work.
Just say no to tasks/meetings that are nonbillable or not actually part of your job if you don’t bill. Find as many creative ways to opt out of nonessential things as you can. You have to be so intentional about using those daytime childcare hours to get things done that matter so you can have as much of the rest of the time for yourself and your family.
Good point, A1. Pumping adds a whole layer of difficulty. Things get so much easier after that ends (not to say easy, but easier.)
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Outsource everything that doesn’t need your personal attention. Your baby doesn’t care if you personally clean, buy groceries, mow the lawn, make beds, etc. That does nothing to enhance your presence as a parent.
(With one caveat—your kids should see you do some chores and you should do some chores together as a family, but you can focus on that when baby is older and limit that to stuff like cleaning up after yourselves day to day, loading the dishwasher, making goodie bags for class parties, etc.)
Hard stop from 5-8 PM at least, no matter what. Phone down.
No nonbillable time that isn’t a clear and critical value add.
Sign up for a MyGym or swim class or something for you, and a separate for hubby/coparent, that is 1:1 with baby. It will be carved out quality time for one parent, that the other parent gets to be alone. It will help you make friends with other parents.
Some days will be chaos. If it’s good 90% of the time, that’s good. If it’s not, make a change. Don’t let your job steal your motherhood (same goes for co-parent).
Your real job is being a parent. Being a lawyer is secondary.
Maybe I’m the outlier here, but I was honestly so dead my first month back. My group generally seems busy but everything was already parsed out so it took about a month to get hours up enough. My firm offers a reduced pay ramp up which I didn’t take but will next time. So my advice if this ends up being you, spend the time on yourself. I missed the opportunity and would just sit in my office thinking I needed the facetime. I wish I would have spent those first few weeks back exercising in my downtime and focusing on getting my brain to rewire for legal work (watch some CLEs or take long term projects). It truly is a time where your brain doesn’t remember exactly how to “do the work” because the focus has been so different for your leave.
This is me right now - how did you know it wasn’t that you were getting frozen out? I would love to just relax and enjoy the slow time but I’m really paranoid