I'm curious have you ever taken feedback harder than you should have? I had a moment recently where I realized I took a comment way too personally, and it’s been tough to shake off. I know feedback is important for growth, but sometimes it’s hard not to internalize it too much. How do you find the balance between being open to feedback and not letting it get under your skin? Would love to hear how others approach this.

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Absolutely! One thing I do is filter the feedback: I ask myself, is this constructive and actionable? Is it coming from someone who understands my work and intentions? If yes, I take it seriously. If not, I remind myself it’s just one perspective, not a full verdict on who I am.

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That's a great approach! Being intentional about what feedback to absorb and what to let go really helps protect your confidence while still growing. I’m learning to ask those same questions to avoid internalizing everything.

All the time… knowing what is constructive and therefore worth taking on board, and ignoring what isn’t, is helpful

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Absolutely! Not everything needs to stick and filtering feedback is key.

I think a lot of it depends on how the feedback was presented to me. I have a difficult time handling feedback that's not constructive and that feels like it's attacking my work. The best way I've found to manage my emotions around it is to try to remind myself that it's not a personal attack, and that in the end, it's going to make me better. That's often easier said than done for me, however.

Totally agree that tone and delivery make such a big difference! I’ve also found it tough not to take things personally sometimes, but reframing it as a growth opportunity, even if it stings at first, really helps processing it.

Oh for sure. I’ve had feedback that stuck with me way longer than it should have and made me resentful, even though that's hard to admit. It’s super hard not to take feedback personally when you're already insecure about your work/worth. But I think learning to separate your worth from your work performance makes all the difference. And then you get better at taking feedback in other areas of your life too, areas that ARE more personal

Yes, that really resonates. Separating self-worth from work is such a powerful mindset shift, Although it doesn’t happen overnight, it makes feedback feel less like a personal judgment and more like a tool for growth.

Maybe this is just something that comes with age, but I don't think there's a single comment that could faze me anymore. If I'm doing by best, applying constructive feedback, and staying true to myself... well, then I know I can sleep at night without the voices of others floating around in my mind.

That’s such a grounded perspective and there’s real peace in knowing you’ve done your best and not letting outside noise take up space in your mind. That said, I’ve definitely had my fair share of waking up in the middle of the night replaying embarrassing moments.

Every single time! When I start to feel upset about feedback, I’ve begun forcing myself to take a deep breath and then pause to think about what was said a little bit more logically. Has been helpful for me.

That sounds like a really healthy approach. Taking that moment to pause and reflect instead of reacting right away makes such a difference.

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