Salamalaykum and Ramadan Kareem! Thoughts on marrying an older woman? I’m 25 and she’s 27, but she’s very religious (hijabi, hafiz, learning Arabic). She’s a good person it seems like, but idk her well enough yet. She seems decent in attractiveness. A family friend reached out to me about her. However idk how I feel about her age. I always was more into younger women (20-24). Should I give it a chance or continue looking?

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In your 20s it's not a big deal. 25 to 27 can work out fine. Worth finding out more.

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WAS - keep in mind that while there is nothing wrong with this, you should be prepared for a few things. 1. People’s comments and remarks - it is bound to happen - but you need to understand you nor the lady owe anyone an explanation nor do they have any rights to judge you. 2. As people grow older, they develop certain habits and ways of doing things - applicable to men and women - and those ways of doing things generally get deeper set as the years go by; be aware that your spouse may have such ways and be prepared to adjust yourself more than trying to change their ways of doing things. 3. Lastly, in several years age will show - are you prepared to handle that and do you have confidence in your character to not 2nd guess your choice. This last one isn’t easy and something that you will need to build to over time but it needs to be understood now.

Other than that, ask Allah for guidance and do istikhara. May He guide you in his path.

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Thank you for getting back SP1. I think you make a good point. I’ve been very stubborn, so maybe I should listen to her. She made a similar point to you in that women go through a lot of changes and she believes a wife should be a few years younger than her husband.

This is a bit disappointing though. I’d like to get married soon, but I also know marrying someone older will be an issue.

It could be worth exploring - but what is your maturity level, OP? I would try and assess if that matches

Jazakallah khair thank you. You’re definitely right. I just feel like I could find a more attractive woman who I’m head over heels over. Idk if it’s me being picky and it’s FOMO. I just feel like I might settle. Idk

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