Any of you in the same boat? As a blk woman, I’m typically only attracted to blk men. When I’m on the dating apps I feel like the attractive blk men with equally good profiles, are looking for something superficial and my photos don’t cute it (crazy). I really wish I could be attracted to other ethnicities but I just don’t feel it and I feel like my preferences are keeping me single forever.

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This posts reminds me of a movie with Sanaa Lathan (“Something New”). ☺️ I understand where you are coming from and I think most can relate… the issue with dating apps is not race… it’s just finding men who are decent. My experience was always some BS, men who didn’t have it together, weirdos, supreme cheaters … this was back in the day… if you want to specifically date black men there are all black dating apps, good luck 💞

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The all black dating apps are just as bad as the regular ones. The thing is black men can easily find quality black women on any dating app, it’s the opposite for black women.

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I would say, give the “maybe” a chance. Maybe the profile isn’t as built out as you’d like, and maybe they’re cute in 2/5 pictures lol. The reality is, not every photographs well especially when taking selfies and not everyone understands how important the profile is BUT in that number could be some gems. My next piece of advice is to go out where all the cuties are and shoot your shot 🫣

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After I finish my tiktok cleanse it’ll be the first thing I’ll do!

Black love was inpoetant to me and I would never change from that.

What are your relationship preferences? It’s interesting you’re assuming the attractive Black men are looking for something superficial, when you might be doing the same by trying to date attractive Black men “with equally good profiles” on the app. It’s easy to be superficial on dating apps and I was guilty of it myself. I met my partner on Bumble and his photos weren’t the best but he was responsive and showed his emotional intelligence in an authentic way when we matched. I’d encourage you to focus more on the connections you make with people on the apps (how do you feel when you chat with them? Etc) vs focusing on how they present in their profiles before you engage with them.

Yeah that’s what I mean when I say superficial, they are only checking for looks and a mask instead of personality and quality. I give guys with so-so profiles a chance and it’s always the same kinda guy who doesn’t really know what they want or are looking for or commitment issues and other red flags. I’m not just looking at good profiles, I just feel like every guy I match with doesn’t show interest or emotional intelligence. I wish they did. I’m starting to think I’m just ugly idk what it is.

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