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I've got three and we've always been very sexually active 2/week at least, but to be frank after my third it was 2/month and only because I kept pushing the issue and I was so frustrated I would resent her for not wanting it more. She felt it and it got worse. Finally after a few months I decided to just not expect it at all and I became more content and at ease. Now, it's ME who has low interest, and her who is interested, what the heck happened?
Honestly, I consider more than a couple of times a month a blessing!
With the wife, 2x a month. With others, 0.
Ours was messed up during newborn years but we're back to 1/wk now.
I'm being as patient as I can with my wife who has had low low libido since having our 2nd 7 months ago. She wants to get her bedroom MOJO back too although is convinced while she is still breastfeeding and Pumping it ain't going to happen. Her goal is breastfeed until 12 mo+
Approx once a week but that’s because we make time for it. Breast feeding has a lot to do with it, it changes the hormones and stuff. My second one is just over two months old with the first being 4.5 now. After the first one though, we had sex very sporadically, and further more she didn’t even want me to touch her, not meaning sexually but even to hug her touch her back nothing. To the point that we were probably about 1 mo th away from getting divorced. After the first this shit went on for about 2 years until things came to a head and I was about to walk out the door. What it really came down to on both sides were unmet expectations by both of us. We didn’t do counseling - simply read a book - 5 languages of love. We’re great again now for the most part - she’s back to the don’t touch me again - not physically but sexually this time because the baby is always climbing on her, breastfeeding etc.
Talk to her about it first.
EY OP ... my wife went through the same thing. Hormones are all off while breastfeeding. And even after, she had to get on estrogen for a little bit to get back to normal levels. It takes time. We’ve got 3 kids now (Ages 10, 5, 3) and things have returned to normal in that department. In the meantime, setup some romantic scenarios to help the mood (candlelit bath time, massage, Yanni ... 😂 just kidding about the Yanni)
Yeah. Have a strategy.
When she’s ovulating I can get it. If I’m lucky, two - maybe three times that week. But otherwise, any other time is a bonus
Yeah this situation is shitty for me, plus during pregnancy, her morning sickness would last forever so not even pre birth libido.
Seriously there is very little upside for men in our situation. Dreading how number two will affect this, I just know it’s going to change even more and not for the better (in the bedroom).
By my wife?