Girls, I m in a situation. I m recently married thr arrange marriage and know my hubby for 10 months. Yesterday I found out he met one girl by arranged marriage before. Both liked each other , after 10 days they decided to go ahead in process and meet family. Family meet and things didn't work well further.
But thing is he never told me this. He at least have to confess he was considering someone seriously before but he never admitted. I m not getting if I m overreacting or his hiding is wrong.

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whatever happened in the past, it should be in the past. if your husband still in contact with her on personal level then you need to talk it out else you can just leave that past stuff

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He definitely did not cheat in this case. In arrange marriage you meet many people try to understand them their family, it may work out or may not. He or she is not obliged to share every single people they meet during that period of time to their partner. Will you confess every single spark you felt for a guy in your life to your life partner. Hiding such sparks are termed as disloyal? Then I guess 99% people are disloyal to their partner.

I would suggest not to dig deep in to this past matter. Until it affects your future. Is he still in touch with her. Then we have a problem. Else you can move on in your life.

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Most likely you were backup so he did not mention. The timeline should confirm it. Have a confronting conversation if it bothers you.

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