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Life happens. Don't take it to heart. Decide to prove them wrong. This past hiccup does not define you. You did a great job in the first half and you can repeat yourself so let go and prove them wrong!. Sit and write down all the things you could have done better that would have made you a winner by now. Put implementation plans into place to achieve them this year.
YES YOU CAN!
Something I learned from several rounds of CBT brought on by job stress in this industry which I find helpful from time to time. When I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed after a negative interaction, it helps me order my thoughts and look at them more rationally. And after that I sometimes feel better able to see a way forward/feel more confident in myself.
1. Write down what happened.
2. Write down how it made you feel. Score the feelings out of ten.
3. Write down the thoughts that went through your head.
4. Write down evidence (actual things, not thoughts) that supports those thoughts.
5. Then write down evidence that goes against those thoughts.
6. What are some alternative thoughts that are coming to mind now? How does the evidence reflect against you and your thoughts?
7. Pause and think about everything you’ve written down. Considering all of that, how do you feel about your situation now?
Template and example here: https://www.nhs.uk/every-mind-matters/mental-wellbeing-tips/self-help-cbt-techniques/thought-record/
I agree with writing everything down and doing a personal 360 review. I would also suggest putting together a list of attainable goals, both short term and long term, that you want to achieve personally and professionally.
In the next few weeks, I would ask for a 30 minute 1 v 1 with your manager. Send a 3 part agenda: (1) Past Performance Lessons, (2) 2024 Goals, and (3) Employee-Manager Collaboration.
Only spend 5 minutes on the first part of the agenda - Past Performance. After you do your personal 360 review, organize your lessons learned in no more than 3 major topics. Be accountable but forward looking by recognizing it is an opportunity for improvement, and present a plan on how you are going to improve. Make it short and sweet, and do not belabor or be overly apologetic. There is power in vulnerability, but being overly self degrading is not. Take your professional goals into the meeting, as well as your personal assessment. You’re essentially saying, “this was the mistake I made, this is what I’m doing to make sure it won’t happen again. Next topic.
Spend 10 to 15 minutes talking about your short term and long term goals. Ask the manager if these goals align with the company’s goals, and what changes need to be made. Ask the manager if there are any blind spots in your goals that will prevent you from meeting company expectations. Take notes and let this be an open dialogue between you and your manager.
Spend the remaining time with last part. Ask the manager what hurdles they envision in you achieving your goals. This could be gaps in your knowledge base, skills that need to be developed, or lack of cross functional support. For any personal opportunities for improvement, ask your manager how you can work together to improve. For cross functional issues or inter-company breakdowns - and even market constraints - ask the manager for advice on how they would overcome those hurdles or what support they can offer you should you encounter those hurdles.
Once you have done this, you will not only have a renewed sense of purpose and attainable goals, but you will have demonstrated to your manager that you are committed to moving forward from your past hiccups. You have opened the lines of communication with your manager, and you have been both accountable and vulnerable in demonstrating your commitment to forward looking success for the company.
Then, go into the new year and crush it. Let your work stand for itself. There will always be those who point and hold you to your past shortcomings; however, those are the ones that will eventually be left behind because their focus is in the past. You can’t change what happened, you can only look forward and be solutions oriented and prove them all wrong.
And, while you’re crushing your professional goals, make sure to focus on your personal goals as well. You have to have balance, otherwise you’ll burnout.
Good luck! Praying for many blessings and success for you in 2024 and beyond!