Has anyone experienced earning more than their partner and having it complicate taxes? I’m frustrated because every year we argue about them. The accountant seems to give him all the deductions, leaving me with a hefty bill. We’ve tried doing separate tax returns, but it's still stressful. I’m really tired of the money issues and feeling guilty about my salary. Is anyone else going through this?

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I don’t understand. If you’re filing jointly, how the heck does the accountant “give him the deductions.” If you’re filing separately, what deductions are you referring to? Mortgage interest can be split. If you have two children together, you each claim one. If you have an odd number of children, let him claim the odd one. It is more tax advantageous for the lower wage earner.

I’ve always made 2-3 times more than my partner. He pays his taxes, I pay mine.

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EY1, yes we file a joint return. We both claim married with zero dependents on our W4’s, each disclosing the estimated income of the other so that payroll tax deductions are reflective of our joint income and tax liability. When we file our taxes, it’s pretty close to a wash. We get a small refund from fed and end up owing about the same to state. Yes, I pay more percentage-wise in tax deductions, but I make more and am in a higher tax bracket. Uncle Sam has figured that out for us, so no reason to bicker about it…that’s how taxes work in the US.

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I used to dread tax season because it just turned into a debate over whose money was being taxed more. We eventually switched accountants and that helped, but honestly, the real fix was us working through our money mindset as a couple.

You should likely be filing jointly, and neither of you would have deductions “given to you.” if for some reason you’re filing separately, my guess is that the accountant has determined that by allotting the deductions more to your partner than to you the tax refund or taxes owed amounts are more favorable to you as a couple. If that’s the case, then you should both just agree to split the tax refund.

It sounds like you don’t blend your income to pay for your living expenses. Perhaps you should consider a joint account to pay for your living expenses, and have an agreement that any tax refunds go into the joint account. You can further agree that that which ever person benefits the most from the deductions, i.e. results in the largest tax return will receive the deductions and that money will be put into the joint account. You both benefit and there’s nothing to argue about.

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