Here are my 2 cents as a woman who had a love marriage a couple of months back ..
1. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, meet the family if you are going to stay with his family - I don't know but guys do have a double face - one theg show you, the other they show their family
2. Staying with his family isn't bad, but please ensure that the values with his families are aligned with yours or least that his family has similar thoughts like your family ..else it will feel like you have moved to another align world .

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3. Talk about money... extremely extremely crucial ..my husband transfers all his salary to his parents account. . And I realised lately, that he has to ask for even 2000 rs if we have to go out

4. His family expects me to wear indian wear all the time, with bindi,bangles which I am not okay with...I have stayed most of my life alone in metros.. I feel it's all about comfort (mind I am not talking about shorts but just jeans/pants)

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Get married to foreigner 🙂

He was your boyfriend and you did not discuss his money situation??? Were you both nibba, nibbi types? 😳

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I'm a mature person in my early30s
We discussed and he said his family don't take a single penny..
And now when I say we should talk about money ..he says he is tired to talk about it now

5. Leaving everything behind (my most adorable and loving family) for a marriage where I feel so bounded seems wrong at all the levels to me. .

Compromising at each stage for all for my husband's happiness, is it right????

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Don't marry then. It's simple. Your words are telling that you are not ready for marriage.

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Love marriage is still a dream for many but after marriage some independence should be there atleast in house, regarding money if parents need that for some treatment or some use then it's good but if it's like simply he is sending everything due to some discipline then it's not good.When will others live their life

I think it's more abt the guy taking a stand and trying to be a bridge until the bride completely feels or understands the new family. There will always be friction but a guy need to help with that instead of becoming a obstruction

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