How are we dealing with (suspected) sexist coworkers? There’s an associate on several of my teams who ALWAYS manages to assign me the more “secretarial” tasks (note taking etc.) even though we’re the same class year, undermines me in meetings, talks to me like a first year, generally treats me like his employee… He is the same with other female associates. But he is very well regarded by the partnership.

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I would tell him to take notes. If you’re the same class year, do not put up with that.

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The group is all male at the partnership level and a bit of a boys club. I have tried to not take notes/have asked him to but he conveniently forgets a legal pad or laptop in meetings - I definitely need to be more assertive and maybe snitch but he’s also quite a bit older than me (started law school later) so he’s a lot more adept at shmoozing with leadership, and I’m always weary of seeming like a bitch by tatting lol. But yeah I need to put my foot down.

Don’t accept the “assignments” — you can say “I can’t do that” or “I’ve got to take care of something else” or just don’t respond.

You can raise your issues directly with the person who should be giving you the assignments, or deal with them indirectly by loading up on assignments from your supervisor and so becoming unavailable to this colleague.

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Agree except that I wouldn’t totally ignore his emails. I think that could backfire.

“Unfortunately I have some important ideas to contribute to this meeting which would be impeded by needing to take notes. I would suggest that X take notes so I can properly contribute.”

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Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Politely say no (“I’d love to help with that but I’m under the gun on a few other matters.”)

Pull in juniors to punt work to.

Angle toward your allies.

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