I need some advice. I’m currently employed as the deputy director for a nonprofit. It’s highly toxic and I’m desperately looking for a new job. In the meantime, I’m hiring a new youth director. Someone in my network, who I respect a lot, applied and reached out to me. She’s qualified and would do great, but the culture would be as poisonous for her as it has been for me. I want to warn her off the job. Is that wrong?

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I would. My network, my people.

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I can tell you, as someone who was in the same boat as your potential youth director. The person who could've warned me didn't, and I resented her for it very much. I was in the most toxic environment I could've imagined. I asked her about it later, and she said it didn't feel right to tell me because she didn't want me to not take it. I probably still would've taken it because the title was good for my resume, but with a different approach and mindset , I wouldn't have felt so blindsided by the insanity.

So I'm in favor of giving her at least some objective info so she can make a good decision for herself.

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Feel her out. Something toxic for you might not be that big a deal for someone else. But definitely let her know so she has all the info.

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I would warn her.

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Def warn. Protect your people!

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Warn her. Contacts survive jobs, ideally.

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I am always honest about both good and bad in a role I’m hiring for, ESPECIALLY if it’s someone from my network.

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If it were you and she was the hiring manager, what would you wish she would tell you? I'd definitely apply the golden rule here.

I would tell her what you're struggling with and let her make her own decisions. That way you've covered both

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