I pay all of the bills except one car payment for the last 9 years and my husband tells me today it's annoying that I ask him if he's going to get paid.

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The question is, why do you allow this? Where does his money go? Lots of people I know, myself included, maintain separate finances, but I expect my spouse to contribute an equivalent percentage to the household, proportional to income.

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It sounds like he’s feeling sensitive and embarrassed by his lack of contribution to shared expenses and financial mgt. So a him problem. Is he freelance/self employed (?)

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Sounds like it may be time to reassess how the bills are being split if it’s so annoying for you to pay all of them and be in charge of the finances, which in my mind includes knowing what income is coming into the household.

Therapy might be the best way to talk about all the financial stuff. I think it’s the hardest topic.

Another question… does he pay it on time? Or does he miss payments?

Time for couples therapy.

You got him spoiled too early try to flip the switch on him. And good luck

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