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Is there anything else you like about her? Some people don’t photograph well. I say, meet her and decide based on that. Please bro, don’t lead her on. Temper your ‘charm’ before the meet. And if you’re still not feeling it, please let her know soon, but with kindness. Good luck!
P.S. this is unsolicited advice from a married (m). Attraction is important, but it’s not the only thing that matters. Beauty fades over time, but a person’s character, their ikhlaq doesn’t (for the most part).
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My brother in Islam, welcome back. From a woman’s perspective, just let her know you’re not feeling the chemistry and you wish her luck in finding the right person. You don’t need to tell her you aren’t attracted to her. It’s only been a few days and if you know you’re not into it, just rip the band aid.
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I agree with D1 - it might be worth meeting in person once if there are other aspects you like about her. But If not, do not lead on and since it’s only been 3 days, you can say you’re not feeling it.
I don’t understand why you wouldn’t meet in person and then decide? Pictures don’t really tell the full story. Kind of weird you would go based off that.
Since you guys have already talked (online) i’d just say “hey i thought about this and i feel like our principles/morals/values (pick one) dont align” put those consulting bs-ing skills to use
Thank you all for the thoughtful advice. I know this might come off as shallow, but I’m just trying to be realistic and I don’t want to do her a disservice. It’s not that she’s not attractive, she’s just not really my type.
It’s a bit tricky to navigate because things haven’t gotten deep enough between us for me to frame it as an issue of compatibility. On top of that, I went heavy on the charm early on, so it’s going to seem a bit bipolar when I suddenly pull back.
I did ask her age, so I’m hoping there’s at least a 3 year age gap so I can frame it as an age difference thing.