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Hi fishes Will work from home in FIS continue atleast upto Dec 2022? Any idea? FIS Global
I got offer in Bangalore FIS and my husband got an offer with one big company in Hyderabad. Both companies are currently WFH only but in future, I might have to consider moving to Hyderabad. Fis doesn't have office in Hyderabad so I was wondering if I can ask permanent WFH later. I guess I will be put in fis payment solution.
Thanks in advance. Kindly let me know. FIS Global
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Spend time working on identifying your blind spots on meeting the one. Who do you want to be with? And who do you have to be to be with that person.
I got divorced at 39 after 15 yrs with someone. I worked heavily on myself and started dating and remarried. Had kids at 44 and 46 after 6 rounds of IVF. Wife and I have been together 10 years now.
Everything you want is possible. What are you willing to surrender to get it?
Wish the best for you you.
Self care - eat right, exercise, no binge drinking (still had a couple cocktails on weekend nights), and got sleep. I’m into health and fitness anyway so started there.
Then books, therapy, YouTube videos, got out and did things with friends, talked it out with ppl who are close.
I looked at what was missing in that relationship and what my values were, my non-negotiable short list. Then I looked at my part of the breakdown of the relationship so I could be better.
Marriage now is great. We are a great fit and our values are really well aligned.
I had my first kid at 44 and I’m a woman. You’re okay. We just sometimes get too busy and life passes by. It’s still not to late - find a girl and have the life you want. Be a nice person in the meantime.
Hey - so you can make anything you want happen for you…
Freeze your sperm now. You never know what quality you have and it does go down.
On single parenthood: make sure you have a strong local support system. I can’t imagine raising kids by my self. Have a ton of respect for single parents but be very aware of what you’re signing up for.
My dad met my mom at 46 and had me when he was 47. My dad's good friend had his first son at 52. What's stopping you from making this a goal of 2026 /27
I hear you! Lean into weekly activities (even if once a week) that you enjoy. You’ll find a connection soon 💫
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You can freeze your sperm to keep the quality. Children are at increased risk to certain neurological conditions with older dads
I think having kids keeps you young.
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Have you considered adoption? Lots of single parents out there are doing things that were once unconventional. I also agree that participating in groups that you have an interest in can help. My friend was a long-distance runner and met his wife of 23 years in a running group. MeetUp has all kinds of group activities that you can try: https://www.meetup.com/
I feel like it’s easier for a man to find a woman who wants to settle down and have kids versus the other way around. Every woman I know has wanted to get married and have kids so badly. With men, I’ve noticed there’s no rush and they like to take their time. Have you been actively dating to find the right person for you?
That’s great! So you understand exactly what I mean! 👏
You will be okay. Keep striving the right person will come & you will achieve all you want like being an awesome dad!!
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you've given your life to the company this is what happens
It is a feeling like grief - all your friends probably have kids and that makes a lot of sense. It is not too late my bestie married a girl 10 years younger and now has 3 kids and he will be 50 in 2027. As a female I went through the grief process years ago about not having children. I met my husband late, but I knew I could not have any children due to medical issues - I found out when I was 28. It took me a while to get over it. I still think about fostering and I might still - but I am unemployed at the moment so not on the list for now again. It is never too late and there are options. Adopt, foster, or shoot to meet a younger lady. You have time, but I understand.
Honestly I have many friends who don’t and don’t want kids, especially living in NYC it’s not that unusual. So me feeling this way makes me think I truly want to be a dad. I’ve gotten out of my funk a bit lately and just focusing on dating and if it there is not kids in my future , I think I will just be ok with it
I feel for you man.
I’m in this boat, just 15 years behind
What happened in the last 20 years? Gotta adjust strategy if it’s not working so far, no time to get too emotional about it if it’s really something you want
I love this.. maybe the self awareness will help you find the perfect one