Feeling really low cause I got diagnosed with a serious uncureable disease. Trying to process and come to terms with the implications of it. I wanna go out but struggling to motivate myself to even get out of bed 😔

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

I have a couple of these. It's very humbling. One of the ones I have shortens my life expectancy by 15 to 20 years. Made me appreciate things more and be grateful for what works more. Happy to discuss further if you wish.

like

The diagnosis is now a choice of how you want to live the rest of your life. Do you want to be inside, alone, and depressed? Or… or… do you want to be the one who goes out, meets up with friends, and lives what rest of your life showing others how wonderful life can be? Choose wisely!

Recent IconRecent

So sorry to hear that. You can stay in bed today and rest, can conquer starting tomorrow. Hope you recover 🤍

like

Take the 11th day. It’s okay to take time to wallow a little after a setback. Take baby steps. Feed yourself, walk around the block, then deal with the implications

likesmart

Not sure what it is (some people are saying MS but I don't see a comment from you saying that so.. weird), but I also have had some pretty impactful, irreversible health issues so can somewhat relate.

I'd recommend trying to find a way to feel some semblance of control over your situation. For me, that's been trying to stay as healthy as I can, which (again, for me) looks like keeping up with physical therapy and other doctor's appointments. When I wasn't doing that is when I felt my most helpless and hopeless. I imagine you'll still have those feelings at times, especially if you have a condition that progresses quickly, but any ounce of control you can take back is helpful.

Facebook also tends to be a good place for support groups. Some groups are better than others. Try to find one where people aren't just wallowing the majority of the time. I found most of my medical team through the group I'm in and seeing other people trying to keep going is encouraging

likeuplifting

Stay in bed today. You don't need to go out. Take some time to process your thoughts. Take some time for you. If all you want to do is cry, do it. If you want someone to talk to, talk to a close friend.

like

I feel like the diagnosis is the time to seize the day vs letting it pass. Do you have any hobbies that if you did full time you’d be really happy with? If it was me I’d quit and snowboard

like

Sorry, that’s really rough. Moodwise, some self-care might help. Think of it as being kind to your body when it’s been dealing with a lot. Maybe it’s grooming, or cooking for yourself, or doing something creative, or getting some air. Just something small that’d feel like you’re honoring yourself.

like

Hey dude, if you think about it, you’ve officially hit the point of life where you no longer have time for stuff you hate. Go do the things you love and makes you happy. If lying in bed all day and scrolling tik tok makes you happy then fuck it do that. If you love to go outdoors do it as long as possible. Tell the people you love you love them and spend as much time as you can. And the things you hate? Fuck it. You don’t have time for that anymore.

like

Also, science is pretty incredible. If you want to go try to beat this go find that research facility/ treatment and go for it. You got this

like

I'll go out with you. Anyone else down?

like

Which disease?

if someone tells you about their friend you don’t know and you ask them, “oh what do they do?”
…that’s a normal sentence until you know for sure which gender pronoun to use. they can be singular.

like

Sorry to hear that OP! Please do something spontaneous and semi safe! What about making some travel plans?

sorry to hear

If a friend or loved one would say that to you, you’d likely tell them to be fair with themselves, yes? That the struggle is understandable and to be kind to themself as they learn to process and adapt to this new information.
Remind yourself of that. 💟

Related Posts

Hi everyone, I’m in need of prayers. My mom was admitted into the hospital recently, but they just found some nodules in her lungs. Their default diagnosis is cancer, and she does have a past history of colon cancer. Please keep her and my family in your prayers. Nothing has been finite, but I can’t help but prepare for the worst & hope for the best. The only thing getting me through this is my faith in God. I do hope this message encourages you to hug your loved ones a little tighter tonight ❤️

like
like

Anyone in NY try the NY Sports Club gyms? Trying to decide if I’ll ever need membership to any of the other locations, or if I just need the local one.

If the network is good, might be worth it..

like

Why does my left arm keep getting numb when I sleep on my back? Anyone experience this?

like

Any recs for a full brimmed hat to wear on the beach in South Carolina? Recently got diagnosed with vitiligo and can’t rock the backwards hat anymore on the beach.

like

How do you re-motivate yourself to stay focused at work, when you’re depressed for non-work related reasons? Any tricks that for you?

like

I have come to the realization that I am more attractive with a mask covering my face 😞

likefunnyupliftingsmarthelpful

Don’t think if my self as depressed, but definitely struggling to give a sh!t recently. Covid, WFH and the craziness of the political drama is definitely a factor, but can’t help but think age and career point is more so - struggling to get excited after 30+ years of the grind.
Looking for suggestions

like

Anyone get their covid booster shot in 3rd trimester? My ob recommended it but I’m unsure if I should get it now or wait until after delivery.

like

Mom of two here (21 month old and 5 month old) who is starting to consider having a third. I am in my late 30’s and my doctor just recommended I start trying at 6 months postpartum. I am thinking I want to start closer to 8-10 months postpartum but have no idea what to expect with a third. Is anyone in a similar situation? Moms or Dads of two, do you ever look back and wish you had tried for three? Moms or Dads of three, how was the transition from two to three and how much did life change?

like

Anyone here diagnosed with gum disease (periodontitis)?? What’re you doing to improve your gum & general oral health? Any recs for toothpaste / mouth wash? Thank you!

like

Apparently Deloitte is one of the major sponsors for the Kentucky Derby Marathon this year. Anyone running that one?

6’0 and weighed in at 220lbs today. All time high and have gained 20lbs since gyms closed in March. When I did workout it was more or less 100% compound lifts. I’m now limited to a few kettlebells but am not even close to as consistent as I was. Any idea on how I can lose this excess 20lbs? I feel like it crept up over night.

like

Does ML urine test?

1 week sober! Over the last 12 years (I’m early 30s) I’ve reached this point just a handful of times. Alcohol is deeply intertwined into my social life much like everyone’s is I imagine. Feeling clear minded and energized. Want to stay clean for my own mental and physical health and for the benefit of my wife and children. Just starting this journey so thank you in advance to this community as I’m ready to learn from you all and be a part. Let’s go!

likeuplifting

I’m on an estrogen patch and I feel like it’s making me really sad. Has this happened to anyone else?

like

Ya’ll take ya vitamins today?

likehelpful

I’ve been stung! How could that be? 🐝

funny

More Posts

What’s it like at Camp J these days?

like

Any opportunity for SAP Business Objects Developer? YOE 5+

like

Hi fishes! I was hired for D&A team in PwC India now i have been added to different competency EPM which I don’t know how to politely say that I don’t want to be part of different domain ? PwC

like

Anyone joining Deloitte India on 19th September

like

Can someone help me on what should one ask for B8 position for project management having 8 years of experience .

like

What is average cost of living near jp morgan office in bangalore? (PG/ Flat/ Apartment)

like

Hi Fishes... I have cleared interview with Wipro and while uploading the documents i uploade document but they mentioned LOA & education certificate are incorrect so i re-uploaded them but again they mentioned LOA is incorrect.. so i connected with the person who sent me the link to upload the doc but no help from her.. i tried to open the link today (17th March) evening but the link was not opening... what will be the next step.. how can i upload it again.. Need your valuable advice.. TIA

Had a socially distanced get together in my backyard (3 people) and it was difficult with convo....after talking about WFH/job related issues, we just kind of sat there with not much updates....anyone else struggling right now? Life just seems very bland

like

Hii.. I am about to join Barclays chennai on October. HR asked to install barclays app for easy onboarding. Tried "Barclays Onboarding" app. It is asking for some instances address. Any idea?

Post Photo
like

Hello Fishes,

I joined CG on 27th July, the first project require me to work on documentation not related to my tech(networking) this I said no and went on bench.
The second project/client they tagged asking me to wrok on FTP L1 Monitoring and t-shoot.
Again this is not relevant to my exp(6 years in Network).

How to get released from this? the upper line is not in touch with me not they responding with update

What options do i have, what if I abscond?

Will they give me exp letter?

I'm going to Machu Picchu next month with my brother and hiking the Inca trail. Any recommendations on what I absolutely need to bring for the hike? Anyone who hiked the Inca trail take like a battery pack or something with them for their camera?

Also, I'm considering bringing my drone even tho I know I can't take it into any of the sacred places like Machu picchu. I also have to register it with customs when I get into the country. Is it still worth taking? I can use it around Cusco and Lima

likehelpfulfunny

Is a TRX sufficient for getting back into shape? I’ve definitely wasted these past two months but I probably won’t be going back to work until after July so I’ve got time to build a foundation once gyms open back up at a decent capacity

like

How are the annual hikes in CBA , TIA ?

like

Inflation report out today. Question- Does this report comes out every month?
is there some fed announcement or meeting schedule for the year?

like

Can someone refer one of my friend at Genpact Uppal Hyderabad??
Profile : senior recruiter.
Exp : 6.5

like

Any Dallas 🐠 looking for a room to rent? Bought a townhome in the Las Colinas/Valley Ranch area and looking to rent out the room & private bath on the bottom floor for $900 plus utilities. 28M 🐠

like

I need some career advice. I finished my master's degree in international law (B.A.Sc international relations) but I am not sure where to go from here. I always wanted to join a big firm and I've applied to different vacancies in international firms/companies but got rejected from all of them.
Does anyone have any tips on certain job positions or companies where an LLM would prove to be useful with my background?
I'm starting to feel quite stuck in this situation and it's very demoralising.

like

I've done so well in this new role within the company that they are hiring another person to assist with what I do. I've voiced to my boss that I'd like to manage this department and they indicated that this is the thought for the future. Now they are asking me to train this person while I have my plate full. Is it wrong for me to expect either a promotion or to be paid to train this person?

like

Honest question but are you able to tie your work directly back to making a difference with sustainability? Or do you feel like a lot of these roles are just optics? Asking as someone who really cares about the subject

like

Any idea when hike letters will be rolled out? Also how much percentage of hike at persistent one can expect?

Additional Posts in New York City

Can I move to Florida the month my bonus hits and not pay any NY State tax on it? Or would I just declare that 1/12 of the year I was in Florida and get the pro-rated refund from NYS on my overall Pay

like

Planning to move to NYC in the upcoming months and want to prepare myself for the competitive apartment market. Is there a need or benefit to having a guarantor if I meet the 40x salary and credit score requirements?
Also would love any other suggestions or tips!

like

Building im applying to has a $1,000 move in deposit. Are these usually refunded? The agent is checking with management but they are being super slow to answer. I want to move quick on this so I don’t lose the apartment

like

Best neighborhoods in Jersey City for starting family soon?

like

About to apply for an apt that’s asking for a $2000 good faith deposit. I’m still a little undecided about the apartment (I have another option in Jersey) Do I wait it out or just go ahead & apply? Honestly don’t know if I’ll feel 100% sure any time soon. First time living in NY & first time renting post college😭😭

like

My roommate has been illegally subletting her room in our apartment (no consent from landlord and up charging as well).

If our landlord/leasing office finds out, could I be evicted as well?

like

How long after exposure did you test positive / have symptoms? I heard for omicron the time period is shorter

like

Looking for a summer sublet from June till mid or end of August - ideally a furnished 1B1B - open for Manhattan and Brooklyn/Williamsburg; ideally between 2.8-3K per month

TIA!

like

Is living in the west village worth it? Moving to nyc soon

like

Anyone have recommendations for a dog trainer in Queens?

like

Has anyone here installed a security camera or system in their own apartment? Any you’d recommend?

likehelpful

Anyone watch the mayoral debate last night? Reading the recap, it seems like it wasn’t that interesting

like

Is this a good weekend to visit dyker heights? Or is it worth waiting?

like

Visiting New York next week and have a reservation at the sushi counter for lunch at Nakasawa. How rude will it be if I started working at the counter? I’m doing everything in my power to close a deal the day before but it ain’t looking good…
Normally, I wouldn’t have issues working in a restaurant, but I feel like in this setting it may be really disrespectful the chef.
And yes, I only want to eat at the sushi counter for a full omakase experience.

like

Anyone know of volunteer opportunities to support Ukraine in the city? Something like assembling care packages, food, etc. Thanks!

like

Will rent in jersey city waterfront apartments (from Paulus hook to Newport) decrease this fall? $3500+ for one bedroom is insane…

like

Anyone have had any luck buying a diamond (for an engagement ring) directly from a wholesaler in NYC? If so, which one did you go to and what was that process like?

People who absolutely HAVE to live in Manhattan amuse me lol

likefunny

Looking for a cleaner! Preferably l
Not to expensive

like

How early before opening are y’all getting to these CityMDs for testing? I just asked one location and she said people started lining up at 5am (7am opening) and I was shook

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal