I’m listening to the audio book Fair Play (ironically while cleaning the house) and am even more upset and overwhelmed realizing all that I do for our family. Has anyone successfully used the Fair Play method with their significant other and seen any real change?

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I have, I will preface by saying that we have been together for 10 years, and don't have kids. My partner works more than I do most weeks of the year so dividing up the work was helpful so that I didn't have to feel like I had to do the work because I was home. We found using the minimum standard of care was very helpful because I found if he did the work not to my standard I would be resentful. Now we have a meeting twice per month to discuss what's going well and what's not going well where I can express where he didn't clean as well as he should have. I found that if he could also Express where I was lacking, it was easier for him to accept my criticisms. For example, if I moved his iPad to the wrong spot he could say hey. I need it over here because then I can XYZ and I could say I need you to dust the top of the bookshelf every week because if it's not dusted I get allergies.

Tldr: Sorry this was rambling but I did find it helpful especially minimum standard of care.

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