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De-center men and make your happiness the priority. Whatever is in line with that fulfillment and maintains that happiness will attract to you. And since you’ll be whole, fulfilled, and happy, you won’t settle for a guy who would undermine that.
Exactly! Would rather have a beautiful, happy life alone than be with someone who took that away.
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I’m 36 and still hopeful! I have been meeting great guys and I’m so excited to settle down 🥰
Met husband April 2024 at 40, ring shopping in August 2024, engaged November 2024, married this past summer 2025. He’s 5 years older. We’re starting IVF now. It is possible, and, with a good man.
Two pieces of advice and 1 offer:
1) Read the book “Calling in the One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas (RIP, she recently passed of cancer)
2) Sometimes your type is your trauma; if you go a tiny bit off your knee jerk attraction reactions you get SO much more
3) If you are astro-curious I can do your chart and give you some guidance - DM me (free of charge); fun fact while we were engaged I did our astrocartography and my marriage line runs right down where his family is from and vice versa… I took that one for a grain of salt but we both found it interesting.
If you haven’t done your healing work, you’re going to inevitably pick people who bring out the absolute worst in you. As an example, my last serious partner before my husband was basically my dad in all of his most AWFUL ways.
Now, my most fervent belief is partnership ALWAYS triggers parts of you that need healing - but the difference between a toxic relationship and a healthy one is whether they end up supporting you with healing those parts of you or damage them more.
With my ex… good lord I was constantly reinjured emotionally. With my husband, being with him has been constant healing. When we have arguments, we repair effectively and change our behavior in relation to one another so we don’t continue to hurt or damage each other. We apologize and actual demonstrate behavior change.
That’s not to say we don’t annoy each other on small things that will never change… homeboy groans when I don’t put the toilet paper back on the roll, and he has an annoying habit of needing to drink ALL of my beverages… but the big rocks - we adjust. It’s not that toxic “well if you don’t like it this is who I am.” But also, we chose each other consciously. We want to be better people for each other.
If I hadn’t done my work (therapy, weird healing shit, entering my witch era), and he hadn’t done his (minus his witch era), than we would be choosing the same bullshit in a partner over and over.
I also think it’s worth noting, I didn’t want to immediately drop my panties for him. He was an interesting person. I wanted to talk to him. Panty drop feelings came later. But I respected him as a person and felt like I was respected. Still do.
37 and chronically single! I’ve hit the point where I’m content either way. If it happens or not. The desire is to find a good man to do life with but I’ve come to the realization it may never happen for me lol. Not being pessimistic but realistic.
Probably not what you’re looking for, but I found my girlfriend when she was 33 and we have a great life
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Met my husband at 36. Having a baby at 37.
Was happy before as single. Am happy now as married. Keep doing your thing.
Yes, life can still be great without a man. Early 40s and have a great career and time with my friends. Travel a few times a year. Life is what you make of it; focus on all the good in your life or create good things in your life
Met my husband at 35. Twins at 37. Third at 41. I was very intentional. Used dating apps and only went on dates that were exactly what i was looking for. Started January. First date with now husband April. Engaged January. Married June.
Change your mindset. Don't over analyze everything. My husband and i didn't really click until date 3-4. He is not the perfect list I was chasing in my 20s. But we have built a beautiful life together and i wouldn't change it.
I had my son at 38 and my daughter at 42. Best blessings of my life!
Engaged twice before. Met my husband at 36, married at 38, one kid from his previous marriage. Met him very unexpectedly as I was focusing on myself and not men. Enjoy your life without worrying about a man. What's meant for you is for you.
My 38 year old roommate eventually found love at 40 and had a baby
I know people who’ve gotten divorced in their 30s and 40s and found love again.