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Bain & Company Hi all, I am interested in making the move to the Middle East, however starting from august/September. What do you think are the prospects for the future in the region? Do you envisage a hiring freeze or are companies still going strong? Thanks!McKinsey & Company Boston Consulting Group Kearney Bain & Company
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Why does he keep applying for jobs in cities you don’t want to move to?
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This. Unless he’s been in medical training I can’t imagine these moves he’s planning are necessary.
If you don’t want to move, don’t move. He can decide whether he’s going or not based on that knowledge. Happy and divorced is better than miserable and married.
Source: happily divorced
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I mean even if it’s not career suicide it sounds like it will be a relationship poison. Doing the same thing that has already harmed the relationship seems like a bad idea
Not career suicide to move firms or cities but the new city doesn’t sound like a good fit if the legal market is small. Can you stay with your current firm and work remotely from there,
Maybe visiting current firm one week a month or something like that?
I would not give up that job specifically in the first year and without a book even if you could find an equivalent in the new location. That is a two/three years wait and build book situation.
What were your discussions about him applying or considering this job? Had you guys previously talked about this potential move? I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I empathize. My partner/fiance is an expat and may have to move for his job to stay in the country. I have a lot of feelings about that and having settled in a place and we’ve been talking about boundaries for me or either of us really to ever move for the other our entire relationship. Even then it’s been hard. So my only advice is to keep talking and/or remind him of what you guys have been talking about or agreed to. Good luck.
Seems manipulative to me. As soon as you finally "make it" to partner he gets a job in a place that will make it hard for you to continue your upward trajectory. He wants to keep you down, rather than celebrating you and finding a job in a place that works for both of you. Some men do this - they try and take away the small victories from their partners. If it was a move you were excited about that would be different (not all husbands who get jobs in small cities across the country are manipulative a holes) but he either doesn't care about you or is actively trying to hurt you, but in a way where he looks like a good guy. Nope! Get that divorce, girl.