my daughter is 10 and has a lil mustache, sometimes more noticeable than other times. I want her to take the lead on asking for what she wants. I don't want to say anything and give her any insecurities over it but also, am I just waiting for her to get bullied over it? anyone deal with something like this?

IMO Its a non issue until its an issue, mama. Continue building her confidence and if she says something, then determine next steps.

I was the girl with the mustache (as are all my daughters). Get rid of it sooner rather than later, but include her in the discussion. Waiting for a kid to be bullied about a mustache (or rather, tell you about the comments of others, both big and small) is like waiting for someone to fall down the stairs before you get a guardrail.

I’m with President 1- I was that girl that was very hairy. I wish it hadn’t come to getting bullied over it

If my child had a cosmetic feature (like a unibrow or mustache), I’d use it as an opportunity to teach about grooming and make sure there was no shame in the conversation. Nothing wrong with teaching healthy self-grooming habits as long as you don’t make it a shameful or obsessive discussion. I’d frame it as a makeover day with mommy or something like that.

I’ve had this convo with local mom friends about shaving in general. I loved the advice from one mom of “as soon as they ask about wanting to shave, take them to get supplies and teach them how to use it”. No “wait until you’re X age”
The conversation can continue with their decision to shave or not shave and being comfortable with whatever they choose. No shame in hair or no hair - it’s all beautiful if you embrace what you love about yourself in any state.

My daughter is 11 and she has brought it up to me. I am not against handling it but my concern has been what is the best approach on skin that is still so delicate. We actually just bought those little bitty peach fuzz razors at Target and we’re going to try those out. She also has very hairy everything - when she was born she even had hairy ears! We’ve treated all of these new grooming categories almost like experiments. Oooh what do you think of this? Do you want to try shaving gel or cream? Do you want this kind of razor or that one? And then trial and error with her making the decisions. It seems to be going well. But the mustache piece is where I get nervous just because of the delicate facial skin. I like what another poster said about addressing it before she’s ridiculed. We waited too long and little boys started asking if she was a boy. It really hurt her feelings in a way that wasn’t necessary for her ‘growth’ and messed with her sense of self.

Take her to a beautician or a salon. Have a spa day, massage, the works. Have the woman working to ask if she wants her hair lightened or whatever. Maybe that’s a question a professional can ask, take you out if the equation a bit.

I work in the schools. Kids are beautiful and kind and respectful and vulnerable one to one. In groups they can turn into another kid altogether. Kids can be mean and girls are worse than boys generally speaking and in my opinion.

I would ask her pediatrician before you do or say anything, OP.