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Ginger, continue your story in the comment section, so there isn’t three separate posts people have to look for to read your whole story
it sounds like you are over working yourself for nothing. They will find thijgs to nitpick no matter how hard you work. Part of these thoughts that you aren’t doing a good enough job etc has nothing to do with them and their comments but more about you and how you feel about yourself, something tells me you struggle with perfectionism, which is something that was beat into our brains as kids and unfortunately is a very toxic trait. You’ll stress yourself to the max chasing perfect. To combat their questions, have all the stats in paper or email it out in a spreadsheet so everyone is on the same page. When they ask tell them to check the spreadsheet. done. move on to your next project and don’t let it bother you.
Ya I absolutely chase perfection. I mean it is a blue collar job with all of the additional parts of office jobs,meetings,reports,trainings,leadership stuff ,being in charge of a team and bpis,kpis. I love it ,it's fun it's rewarding.....it's just like I dont get their mentality sometimes.
If we are not meeting sales goals "I haven't drilled into my team enough".
If my Assistants aren't able to do something ore maintain the store the same way I do "I haven't developed my team enough".
Low staffing due to too many request offs that weekend...."I'm not being a good leader" becouse I grant all these request......I mean when someone requests on time correctly ....thats it. They are not missing their sisters graduation or their mini trip or their event that they baught tickets for.
Fyi, you’re supposed to continue your story in the comments section of your first post, not make a new post. Also, you may want to post anonymously, just a suggestion.
Part 3
I love my job! I'm good at it! But at what point do I make a decision about my mental health and work life balance?
First, it sounds like in your earnest effort to prove yourself you’ve also compromised some boundaries (we’ve all been there). I’ve learned over the years that if you don’t respect and value your work and time first - then how can we expect others to? Unfortunately the precedents set can be challenging to walk back (working on days off, “making it happen” at your own expense, etc.) I’d encourage you to read up on setting healthy boundaries as this has been very helpful in both my personal and professional life.
Regarding “managing up” to your boss, try your best to stick to the facts and not let your emotions get the best of you (easier said than done when you’re in burnout, I know). Ask some clarifying questions that will force them to further consider their feedback/accusations.
For example “how would you recommend I approach this next time we are understaffed?” I often encourage my direct reports to “stay curious” and ask earnest questions that will better help you understand both where your boss is coming from and what their priorities and expectations are.
(Bonus if your boss is a man bc most of ‘em cannot resist an opportunity to mansplain. I love a little psychological warfare).
Regardless of all the aforementioned, it sounds like you may have outgrown your employer and you’d be best off managing your current situation to the best of your ability while you look for a new role where you can expand your skills and be treated with more respect.
Best of luck to you either way!
Sometimes I get a congratulations and a praise in the same day I am reminded I could get a pip for not meeting my sale goals..